How has your past observation or experience with other women held you back in your career or your business?
Maybe that hurt came from your mother, your own family, close friends, co-workers, Bff’s, etc… I want to help you release some of the hurt starting today.
I have spoken to hundreds of thousands of women since I’ve been in business. Whether it was coaching, Masterminds, keynotes, workshops, networking, beauty salon talk, etc…I often hear some women mention that they want the support from other women, they want to share their goals and dreams, they want to celebrate others and be celebrated themselves but the trust in other women is at a minimum.
I believe true release doesn’t come from keeping your guards up it comes from a deep level of understanding.
When I look at the biggest challenges of my life they almost all center around the brutal side of abused sisterships. Growing up I recall being judged, smiled and stabbed in the back, teased, betrayed, and so much more by women whom I trusted and cared for. (Not to mention some women I didn’t even know that wanted to make it their assignment to smear my name!)
And I can’t say I was all “sugar and spice and everything nice” either, I know there are women who feel that they’ve been deeply hurt by me.
Here’s my truth: having true sisterships especially if you are going through any type of transition makes the challenges of life a bit smoother.
What’s The 411?
Wondering what’s going on for The Big ASK Conference weekend. Here is a snapshot. Mark your calendars.
Denim with a Pop of Self…(meaning “do you”)
We have listed a few suggestions thanks to Styled By She
There is too much to share to type in one post so please be on the lookout for a Follow-Up video.
Let me just share that the ESSENCE Fest experience is all about the side events. Just when you think you are having a blast at the Convention Center and the concerts at The Superdome before you get there you have to decide between a dozen or so dope events that you must narrow down to two or three that you can attend per day.
Side events include celebrity brunches and lunches, meet-ups with decision makers and corporate big wigs, your favorite product Pop up shops and then there’s the all-white parties, all black parties, movie premiers, listening parties, and album releases.
I was able to get in on:
AT&T Brunch with Isaiah Thomas– it was polished. Everyone was dressed to the T. Me and hubby literally just got off the plane and headed over to the brunch not realizing it was fancy schmancy. As we were going back and forth whether we should stay or leave because we were underdressed, cute still but a bit underdressed, here comes a big wig, greeting us, loving on us and welcoming us to an elite table in our un-elite attire. LOL
Here is where Isaiah Thomas was showcasing his new champagne which was really delicious and I had a chance to meet some top executives and media outlets. One connection I made, in particular, had me ready to do a Glory run around the room. (more to come about that)
Strength of A Woman Brunch hosted by Mary J Blige- yoooooooooooo, this event is my personal highlight ever year, thanks to one of my sister friends. Here you are in a room full of A-listers but everyone is super cool and relaxed. The energy in the room is light and the ambiance is flawless. Plus I get a chance to see Mary J Blige up close and personal. Yes, I had to hold back a few yells and OMGs when I saw her but her smile and even acknowledging my Yellow dress was everything.(more…)
Every business should have an offer sheet. Here is a template I use that has made me lots of $$$. Seriously, what are you waiting for? Create your offer today and don’t go to another event without one.
*If you are offering products and services and you get the opportunity to speak on stages and platforms. Consider creating an offer sheet that you can hand out. This can turn any free engagement into a paid opportunity.
Yep! that is exactly how I manifested my man about 12 years ago. I took the time to “write the vision and make it plan” but on my board, there was nothing plain about what I wanted in a companion. I decided that since I was able to watch my life increase in other areas it was time to see the increase come in my love life.
I didn’t start out with this long list of “must haves”. I put together a list of characteristics and values I wanted him to have. I put down beliefs systems and morals that I wanted in a man. I made sure I put more of what I desired based on long term goals in a life partnership, versus a temporary love affiar that I had experienced in the past aka “seasonal potentialships”.
My Love Board kicked off with me learning how to love myself, understand myself and believe in myself. That meant me doing things that I wanted to do, following my dreams, creating positive habits and dropping dead weight inside and out.
After a year or so of that, here comes Mr. LOVE. We locked eyes at a 4th of July BBQ and the rest is now history in the making. We are happily married and tonight we celebrate his birthday. He is everything and more.
I have a Love Board template that you can download and print. I now use this to create a Love board for our marriage to Keep the Love Alive!
Nice For What?
Most entrepreneurs stay enthusiastic and ambitious until they are called to get out of their comfort zone and they then become paralyzed with fear. They concern themselves with the criticism of others and begin to throw shade on their own light.
Sounds insane right? Well, it is. Just imagine all the potential wasted in excuse-making, light dimming and lack of confidence. Many entrepreneurs work harder at being nice and liked than nice and paid.
Nice for what, I say.
It is time to give your “nice” self, permission to be:
nice and paid
nice and focused
nice and professional
nice and worthy
nice and confident
nice and shining
nice and winning
According to Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers. Lois P. Frankel said, Stop making “nice girl” errors that can become career pitfalls, such as:
Mistake #21: Multi-tasking. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should do it.
Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate. Don’t equate negotiation with confrontation.
Mistake #70: Inappropriate use of social media. Once it’s out there, it’s hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube.
Mistake #82: Asking permission. Children, not adults, ask for approval. Be direct, be confident.
Entire books have been written on how to slow down, enjoy simple pleasures, and lead a simple lifestyle. These books exist because people often long for simplicity, but don’t know how to get out of the rat race long enough to learn it. The good news is, you can start small by implementing some simple tips and suggestions. Here are some ideas.
Ten minutes is a doable time increment for even the busiest person, so it’s a good place to start. Pick when your ten minutes will be – right before bed, maybe, or at noon. The point is to be quiet and focused during those ten minutes, and to enjoy a simple pleasure for that time. Draw a picture, read a book, meditate, write a few lines in a journal. Make it a quiet ten minutes – no phone, no television, no computer.
If you do this every day, you will carve out an hour and ten minutes each week. Think of it as a small investment in your simpler future, visit azlimo.com.
A manifesto is defined as a declaration of one’s beliefs, opinions, motives, and intentions. It is simply a document that an organization or person writes that declares what is important to them. Writing down your personal or professional manifesto is a great way to
- Clarify your beliefs and mindset
- Examine your motivations and inspiration
- Create personal affirmations
- Write down your goals and aspirations
Your personal or professional manifesto doesn’t have to be permanent. Just like a vision board, you can add to you as the years go and as you grow. It is a great message to post in the office of your company, on the wall as a piece of art in your home, etc. Put it on a t-shirt if you want. Here is a simple outline you can follow to get started on writing your manifesto.
As a BONUS I have added my company Manifesto for Activate Worldwide below for you to download.
I believe that everyone _______ .
It is important to _______ .
Success is _______ (in these ways).
I am ______________and ______________made.
Grab your FREE copy of the Activate Manifesto
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