Nice For What?
Most entrepreneurs stay enthusiastic and ambitious until they are called to get out of their comfort zone and they then become paralyzed with fear. They concern themselves with the criticism of others and begin to throw shade on their own light.
Sounds insane right? Well, it is. Just imagine all the potential wasted in excuse-making, light dimming and lack of confidence. Many entrepreneurs work harder at being nice and liked than nice and paid.
Nice for what, I say.
It is time to give your “nice” self, permission to be:
nice and paid
nice and focused
nice and professional
nice and worthy
nice and confident
nice and shining
nice and winning
According to Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers. Lois P. Frankel said, Stop making “nice girl” errors that can become career pitfalls, such as:
Mistake #21: Multi-tasking. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should do it.
Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate. Don’t equate negotiation with confrontation.
Mistake #70: Inappropriate use of social media. Once it’s out there, it’s hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube.
Mistake #82: Asking permission. Children, not adults, ask for approval. Be direct, be confident.
Let God Crown You, Not The Streets.
To all my young girls and young women who believe the streets are loyal.
Being a Trap Queen and chasing fast money is not an aspiration.
No one is going to be there when the cuffs and shackles are put on. Your “street family” don’t visit or can’t visit, they don’t put money on your commissary, they’re not there when your name is stripped to a number and when you have to strip, squat and cough. Your man aka bae moves on to the next chick who is not in the streets. You are left with broken promises, unanswered phone calls and no mail from those you looked out for, fought for, showed up for, left your family for, and spent money on. Those you broke bread with and held down suddenly disappear and you now become a memory and your status becomes forgotten.
Fast cars become a trip on Con Air or a prison bus as you are transported from court or prison to prison. Jewelry and expensive bags become shackles and cuffs. Those brand labels you wear become sweats, tan or orange suits. The streets you once rep and your street family are replaced with cement walls, food that looks like death, steel toilets, dirty cells, 2in thick beds, used panties, women who try to test you mentally, physically and sexually, COs and counselors who take advantage.
You didn’t want to listen to your mother or mother figure when you were a “trap queen” so now that is replaced with a “prison mom” who’s doing lots of time and they show you who to trust and how to do your time.
You learn to adjust and get excited about mail call and commissary days or being moved from a holding facility like MCC to a prison so you can live a little and eat real food visit this site right here. Trading soups for cigarettes or crocheting slippers for snacks.
Trap Queens have to fight for their freedom with a public defender or paid lawyer who goes out for drinks after work with the same prosecutors who work tirelessly to give you a plea deal that is unjust or charges that give maximum sentences.
Wake up! Don’t trade your name for a number, read more at this site . Let God crown you not the streets.
When we set out to achieve our goals and reach our milestones in life we can be sure on at least one thing – there will be difficult decisions that need to be addressed.
In fact, my #Activate rule of thumb states that if there are no difficult decisions on the table, then the milestone is minor and the goal is too small!
When it is time to make a decision in life we are placed in a position called POWER. We get a chance to choose what to do next and what happens next. Often our first reaction to the most difficult decisions is to “push it under the rug” but we all know that’s not productive.
The next response is often times to bully ourselves into stressful energy, but that never seems to work either. We’re much better off with the solution I call “Let It Flow.”
F- Free your mind and go into silence. Quiet the inner chatter so that the truth can speak.
L- Let go of the need to be right. Let go of the fear of being wrong, and the pride to have control. (more…)
Activate Your Vision(TM): The year is not over yet. The year is still unfolding miracles, signs and wonders. I received a full blessing and a major, major contract deal last week and it’s just a sign that there is more coming. We must do things in life expecting a specific increase to happen.
I want you to consciously use the Law of Increase. The Law of Increase gradually shifts your thinking to see more of the goodness in your life and others. The Law of Increase opens the door for you to produce miracles out of the most powerful vessel we have, “the mouth”. (more…)
Sisterhood is a reward.
The sister relationship, above all other relationships, is the greatest of all.
I believe sisterhood requires more energy than parenting and more work than a marriage.
Sisterhood is a bond often threatened and is threatening all in the same breath.
When women get married, a union is formed.
When women have a family, a nation is built.
When women step into their purpose and empire is created.
But, when women get together the world changes.
Sisterhood, in my opinion, is not something that can be defined. It is an experience that must be had.
There was a time when I might have attempted to understand the term “sister” or “sisterhood” by looking outside myself for a definition. Today, however, as I am perhaps wiser and certainly more confident, I choose to rely on my own personal experience and observation. Although I don’t have a sister by blood, I am well aware of the uniqueness of this relationship and the value it holds for me.
I had the pleasure of interviewing four ladies that I have been watching on Instagram for quite some time, and their movements are astounding. I call these four ladies “The Elements.” They each bring something valuable to the society that they live, work and serve.
Their bond doesn’t come from superficial commonalities, but a shared understanding of each other’s experience and contribution to the world. Within this understanding, any differences can be embraced.
Please review the rest of this article written by Lucinda Cross in Huff Post Women
Lucinda Cross Interviewed By: Better Than Success
In our interview with Lucinda Cross, she drops some amazing jewels on how to Activate Your Life Now and how she helps amazing entrepreneurs such as yourself get started. She gets down to the nitty-gritty on how procrastination can be your ultimate downfall unless you learn how to master your mindset, so that your not just allowing life to happen. Lucinda has taken the world’s best kept secrets and helped them to gain exposure. She has assisted numerous Reality TV Stars with understanding how to maximize and monetize their rise to stardom. Lucinda instills in her clients two main principles utilizing 5 Pillars of Excellence:
- Master Your Mindset
- What is the Root of Your Business
Click here to listen to the full interview. Mastering Your Mindset to Activate Your Life
Lucinda Cross, an energetic teacher of personal and professional development, will be joining Paul C. Brunson to talk about how to create a powerful business through vision boards. If you can’t see where you are going, how will you get there?
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You know too much to turn back now. You’re on purpose, you answered the call, you said YES to your assignment. It’s too late…you are now in the Danger Zone. Dangerously on purpose, dangerously on fire, focused and dangerously free…It’s on now and there is nothing they can do about it. Say “it’s too late, I’m already here”? Lucinda Cross
One thing we all want is respect. We want others to believe in us and in what we do. In order to make the necessary shifts we must tune into our power. Many of us are on the wrong channel in our lives. We are on the Entertainment tonight channel when we should be tuned into the Discovery channel of our life.
This week I challenge you to Stand up and Speak up. Start with confronting any fears you have. Once you confront your fears then you can truly create the life you desire and that takes time.
Ask yourself this question… (more…)
During my trip to Dallas Texas to speak at a Teen Empowerment Conference: Ambush Your Dreams.
We talked, we laughed, and we laughed some more, then it happened…
A great coach can see the concern behind all the MAC and NARS. She says, “Lucinda what is going on?”
I tell her half of the concern.
“Bayo (my husband) wants to go to Essence Fest and I am not sure about going.” She said, “Why not?”
I begin to tell her about my deep desire to be a part of Essence Fest Empower U. I tell her all the great things that have transpired since the article release in January. I tell her about the snow ball effect with the media and how it only makes perfect sense to conclude my vision board tour in NOLA and bring my husband along. She begins to break it down about target, timing and season. She reminds me of how supportive my husband has been of my travels, ventures and media imposing in our homes and in our lives. She asked me why I would want to bring him to NOLA for more of that frenzy when it should be a time for having fun, networking and celebrating with him. She asked me again, why would I want to do a focused vision board workshop in a place designed for concerts, fun and unlimited drinks. Why would I think people would be focused on a vision board when they are there to hear their favorite artist perform, dance the night away and
attend the day parties? She informed me that Essence Fest may not be the place for me to conclude, maybe not this year and not this time.
She closed out by saying “take a chill pill, and go with your husband to Essence Fest for fun and be free.”
That moment of questions and reasoning took a huge weight off my back. I now ask you:
* What are you holding back from experiencing because you are not on the agenda?
* What opportunities are you missing out on because you are forgetting the “work hard, play hard rule?”
* When will you put down the business hat and pick up the “carpe diem” live life hat?
As the go-getter I am, I could have easily went down to NOLA and hosted my own event. I am getting emails from media and people who are asking if I am coming down to do vision boarding. What is more important to me is the time with my best friend, lover and supporter, just to be a part of the grand experience. I never been to Essence Fest before so why not enjoy the experience first.
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