Let God Crown You, Not The Streets

Let God Crown You, Not The Streets.

To all my young girls and young women who believe the streets are loyal.

Being a Trap Queen and chasing fast money is not an aspiration.

No one is going to be there when the cuffs and shackles are put on. Your “street family” don’t visit or can’t visit, they don’t put money on your commissary, they’re not there when your name is stripped to a number and when you have to strip, squat and cough. Your man aka bae moves on to the next chick who is not in the streets. You are left with broken promises, unanswered phone calls and no mail from those you looked out for, fought for, showed up for, left your family for, and spent money on. Those you broke bread with and held down suddenly disappear and you now become a memory and your status becomes forgotten.

Fast cars become a trip on Con Air or a prison bus as you are transported from court or prison to prison. Jewelry and expensive bags become shackles and cuffs. Those brand labels you wear become sweats, tan or orange suits. The streets you once rep and your street family are replaced with cement walls, food that looks like death, steel toilets, dirty cells, 2in thick beds, used panties, women who try to test you mentally, physically and sexually, COs and counselors who take advantage.

You didn’t want to listen to your mother or mother figure when you were a “trap queen” so now that is replaced with a “prison mom” who’s doing lots of time and they show you who to trust and how to do your time.

You learn to adjust and get excited about mail call and commissary days or being moved from a holding facility like MCC to a prison so you can live a little and eat real food. Trading soups for cigarettes or crocheting slippers for snacks.

Trap Queens have to fight for their freedom with a public defender or paid lawyer who goes out for drinks after work with the same prosecutors who work tirelessly to give you a plea deal that is unjust or charges that give maximum sentences.

Wake up! Don’t trade your name for a number. Let God crown you not the streets.

The UV Effect Podcast: Release Restraints To Activate Value

[NEW EPISODE] My guest on this episode of the#TheUVEffectPodcast is no stranger to adversity and overcoming. After being incarcerated at only 19 years old, this phenomenal woman developed the mindset and the vision to create the extraordinary life she is living today.

Show Notes:
  • I’m here to speak my truth and stand in my power.
  • My past is my story, it is the reason I am here.
  • No longer will I allow procrastination to prevent me from moving forward
  • If you are able to Activate, you would no longer be the best-kept secret.
  • Authenticity has no competition
  • When we work on our own goals, ambitions, and dreams, we’ll see how easy it is to live more, obtain more, have more, become more.
  • You don’t have to become your environment.
  • Standing out makes you become your best.
  • There’s a world that celebrates you doing the things that you love to do.
  • We have to stand up and be our best because somebody needs that.
  • Our unique value is connected to a portion of the world that we are designated to support.


Interview on Support is Sexy podcast

Lucinda’s is an incredible story of resilience and vision. And on this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Lucinda — who is now President and Chief Activator of her own company, Activate Worldwide, speaks around the world about the power of vision, and who has appeared in media, such as Essence and the Today show — shares how to shift your mindset, hold onto to your vision, remain resilient and believe in the possibilities, no matter your circumstance.

 On this episode, you’ll learn…

  • How to know when it’s time to share your story.
  • How to shift your mindset and hold onto your vision no matter your circumstance.
  • The power of creative visualization.
  • What a vision board is.
  • Why your vision board only works if you work it.
  • What are three key things that you should keep in mind when creating your vision board?


I see you…I love you. I take you in. ~Viola Davis

“I see you…I love you. I take you in.” ~Viola Davis

I believe we as women must see each other and recognize the wisdom, strength and tenacity in one another. I believe we must take each other in. The response that Viola Davis shared with the NY Times is so profound.

Let’s take each other “in”

Let’s recognize a woman who is doing great.

Let’s send massive amounts of love and support to one another.

NY Times Question: What did you and Taraji P. Henson, a fellow nominee in the drama category, say to each other when you won?

Viola Davis Answer: First of all, that was like the second or third time we hugged through the night. She said, “I love you,” and I said, “I love you more than anything in the world, I love you!” That’s what we said. I think at the end of the day, people want to be seen. And I think that’s why it was important for me and Taraji to acknowledge that in each other, to not just feel like it is competition, to just say, I see you, yes, I see you, too. I love you. I take you in.

Click here to read the full interview.


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My coach cracked my face about Essence Fest

During my trip to Dallas Texas to speak at a Teen Empowerment Conference: Ambush Your Dreams.

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I had the opportunity to finally meet my coach face to face. We have been coaching together since 2009, this was truly an epic moment for me.

We talked, we laughed, and we laughed some more, then it happened…

A great coach can see the concern behind all the MAC and NARS. She says, “Lucinda what is going on?”

I tell her half of the concern.

“Bayo (my husband) wants to go to Essence Fest and I am not sure about going.” She said, “Why not?”

I begin to tell her about my deep desire to be a part of Essence Fest Empower U. I tell her all the great things that have transpired since the article release in January. I tell her about the snow ball effect with the media and how it only makes perfect sense to conclude my vision board tour in NOLA and bring my husband along. She begins to break it down about target, timing and season. She reminds me of how supportive my husband has been of my travels, ventures and media imposing in our homes and in our lives. She asked me why I would want to bring him to NOLA for more of that frenzy when it should be a time for having fun, networking and celebrating with him. She asked me again, why would I want to do a focused vision board workshop in a place designed for concerts, fun and unlimited drinks. Why would I think people would be focused on a vision board when they are there to hear their favorite artist perform, dance the night away and
attend the day parties? She informed me that Essence Fest may not be the place for me to conclude, maybe not this year and not this time.

She closed out by saying “take a chill pill, and go with your husband to Essence Fest for fun and be free.”

That moment of questions and reasoning took a huge weight off my back. I now ask you:
* What are you holding back from experiencing because you are not on the agenda?
* What opportunities are you missing out on because you are forgetting the “work hard, play hard rule?”
* When will you put down the business hat and pick up the “carpe diem” live life hat?

As the go-getter I am, I could have easily went down to NOLA and hosted my own event. I am getting emails from media and people who are asking if I am coming down to do vision boarding. What is more important to me is the time with my best friend, lover and supporter, just to be a part of the grand experience. I never been to Essence Fest before so why not enjoy the experience first.

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Here is a picture of me and my coach Kadena. She is my secret weapon.


The Gift Of Adversity

The gift of adversity.

Sometimes adversity ends in sweet success, and sometimes it’s in the funk of failure.

One thing that we can all agree on is that adversity forces us to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

The adversity that we have to deal with in life challenges us to find our inner strength, and to find strengths we didn’t even know we had, to tackle
problems we had no idea how to solve, and most importantly how to go against the odds.

We come out the other side a different person, with a new perspective and appreciation for life.

@MommyNoire Feature 10 Moms Who Rock! Including Lucinda Cross

LucindaPostArt-1-643x430By @Konnectshun “Moms, we work hard everyday. We invest in our children. We hold down our home – think breakfast, lunch, and dinner, with a few snacks in between. And let’s not forget the daily cleaning duties, bills, and laundry. If married, we nurture our significant others, and if single, we try to go above and beyond to nurture ourselves. All across the board our role as a mother is an important one, and truly, it’s a role that is really built for the strongest. Celebrating the essence of motherhood, Kay Hudson and Kweli Wright, the editors at Mommynoire praise the following 10 Moms Who Rock, because of their traction in the media and blogging world. These women are a beautiful blend of power and influence. They parent and they are professionals at their craft. Cruise through our Moms Who Rock post and salute the women who represent the following verticals: beauty, hair, fashion, community involvement, tech, fitness, lifestyle coaching, food, entertainment, and lastly home decor!” – See more at:

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