Passion, Platform and Purpose

If You Don’t Do It, It Will Never Be Done

“Every man and woman is born into the world to do something unique and something distinctive and if he or she does not do it, it will never be done.” Benjamin E. Mays
As we get closer to the end of 2016 I believe it is extremely important for you to embrace your wins and your learning lessons.
Activator, you have a gift for the world that no one else has. You are the secret sauce that makes life so flavorful delicious. Yes, you might have made some mistakes. Yes, you might have said yes when you should have said no. But I want you to stop thinking that there is nothing special about you and your story.

You’ve been waking up and changing lives without you even knowing it. You have been depositing little drops of hope and faith thinking that what you said and what you did, didn’t really matter.

But it does.

And it did.

That little vision, that small desire, that little nudge that keeps pulling at you is the real reason why you’re here.

What is the gift you have for us?

What is the gift that you are carrying for someone else?
You are the gift my lovely Activator. Large or small, you are holding on to something that only you can give.
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What Does Lucinda Cross, Karen Civil and Sabrina Peterson Have In Common?

Smart Business Advice From 7 Savvy Black Enterprise Women Entrepreneurs

Take heed to these wise words from female powerhouses who’ve reached success

Check out this cool article written by Essence Gant on Black Enterprise online.

On your power: “In order to find your power, you have to admit to your truths. You owe it to yourself to get to know you. Familiarize yourself and discover your strengths and weakness and then own it.  If you don’t like what you see, then change it.

“I decided to own up to whom I was, a person who made a mistake. Once I forgave myself, I decided to act, talk and think differently.” Lucinda Cross

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My NBC Today Show Debut: Start a vision board to help you reach your goals

IMG_0269Mark Twain once said: The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. Yesterday I had the honor and pleasure of being a special invited guest on NBC Today Show with Tamron Hall for #Tamron’sTuesdayTrend. I was actually supporting Tamron in the vision board process LIVE. (video replay below)

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14 days into the New Year and I already have two major media outlets under my belt. As my vision continues to come to fruition, I realize that in order to make a difference I don’t have to change the whole world. Starting right where I am and breaking my vision up into bite sized pieces and chomping at it is the best way to go.

Creating a vision board will build a sense of accomplishment. It feels good and it feels even better when you see what you It’s amazing what you can get done with having a little creative visualization. Sign up for the next Vision Board Party.

“Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.” Paul J. Meyer

This actually is a 12 step process that I teach at my Activate Your Vision Board Parties.

Here’s three of the 12 phases:

1. Phase one is creating an Agreement. The agreement is based on the truth of not getting far in life without being productive and taking action towards your goals.

2. Phase two is making a Commitment. This means that you will commit to taking out the time to get clear about your vision and acting on that commitment daily.

3. Phase three is Planning. This requires you to believe the impossible.

As you watch this clip from the Today Show think about how you can start visualizing today for a better tomorrow.

For Tamron’s Tuesday Trend, motivational speaker Lucinda Cross joins TODAY to offer tips on how to fulfill your dreams in the new year, including creating a vision board to focus on your inspiration and motivation. 

Visit NBCNews.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy

 

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2013 Activate Reflections #1: Being In Order

Your blessings are in order.

God told Abraham in Genesis 12:2, “I will bless you … and you will be a blessing”. This is the first law of blessing: It must flow outwardly. The more you give the more you receive.  Being a blessing to others does not mean that you handicap a person or you do it out of people pleasing, it simply means that you are serving a need. Whether it is physical or emotional support, financial help, prayer, or practical advice. “Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand” (Philippians 1:4).

We are blessed to be a blessing.

God’s blessings are in order.

God’s blessing can either be internal or external.

Open up to receive your blessings without limitations.

 

~Lucinda Cross

Jezebel Is Attacking Our Women Leaders!

20131031_130815Women leaders are emerging everyday, some are enlightened and others are sleep walkers.

As I embrace my lead-her-ship position I understand the importance of being an enlightened earthly vessel.  I consistently do a spiritual, mental, physical, and emotional check up.

Why?

….simply because of the challenges and the spiritual warfare that comes with being a lead-her.

As a leader or what I consider myself as a “lead-her”, there will be times when you will be faced with adversity and you must have discernment.

Everything is a teachable moment, everything. The bad relationships you had in the past, may be a lesson to show you what love is and is not.

Everything is a teachable moment. The negative comments may be great feedback for acceleration.

Everything is a teachable moment. The person who borrowed money, may be a lesson of who to sow into and who to stop handicapping.

Everything is a teachable moment. The money you invested in yourself and the expectations that was never met, may be a lesson of the importance of doing due diligence.

Everything is a teachable moment when you are a leader.

I want you to take a look at this list of traits of a Jezebel spirit below and begin to perform a self-improvement check up so that when you are out in public doing your thing, Jezebel doesn’t show up (in YOU) instead of the powerful leader (YOU are).  Understand that the Jezebel spirit waits for an opportunity to show up and make you look crazy by acting out of character. If you recognize any of these traits in your own life, begin to pray, fast and seek counsel.

 30 Consistent Traits of the Jezebel Spirit

1. Refuses to admit guilt or wrong

A Jezebel spirit is never wrong, unless it is a temporary admittance of guilt to gain “favor” with someone. To accept responsibility would violate the core of insecurity and pride from which it operates. When a Jezebel apologizes it is never in true repentance or acknowledgment of wrongdoing but rather “I’m sorry your feelings were hurt.”

2. Takes credit for everything

While a strong trait of Jezebel is to never take responsibility for his wrong actions or behavior, he also is quick to take credit for benefits for which he contributed no effort.

3. Uses people to accomplish its agenda

The Jezebel spirit lets others do its dirty work. The Jezebel gets another person’s emotions stirred up, then lets that person go into a rage. The Jezebel sits back looking innocent, saying “Who me? What did I do?” This behavior makes it difficult for even the most ardent truth seekers to pin one down. The Jezebel spirit is clever in its agenda.

4. Withholds information

This is a form of control. A Jezebel wields power over you by knowing something you don’t know in a situation. In the eyes of a Jezebel, having information you don’t have is a powerful weapon of control.

5. Talks in confusion

It is impossible to converse with a Jezebel in logic. One pastor wrote a six-page letter to his elders about a situation in the church. The context was so vague that no one was without confusion. This is a way to maintain control and domination. When confronting a Jezebel, the subject may be changed five times in one minute. Confusion keeps them “undiscovered” and unexposed.

6. Volunteers for anything

A Jezebel volunteers in order to establish control. He seemingly has endless (nervous) energy and eagerly looks for opportunities to be in charge of projects. Although he will work hard, his motive is never pure, and eventually his secret agenda cannot be hidden.

7. Lies

A Jezebel lies convincingly. No one can lie better than he can. He can turn on the charm and make you believe blue is red. He always fools those whom he’s just met while those who have been victimized by his tactics stand by helplessly. The fact that Jezebel can look you in the eye and lie just shows how strong and adamant this rebellious and recalcitrant spirit is.

8. Ignores people

A classic ploy of a controller is to ignore you when you disagree with him. This tactic is frequently used by leaders when someone doesn’t agree with their plans, and they isolate the person by ignoring him. Some in these situations have been ignored for months, just because they chose not to be a puppet and say to every idea or whim. This puts the person out of the leader’s grace and forces him to either “come around” to the leader’s way of thinking or be indefinitely ignored. One is not free to disagree with a controller.

9. Never gives credit or shows gratitude

A Jezebel will rarely acknowledge another person’s actions, not even for something that turned out to greatly benefit the Jezebel. He just cannot bring himself to say thank you or to acknowledge that someone else did something right. There are those who have gone out of their way to bless a Jezebel by being the catalyst of sending him on a trip or giving a gift. Yet never will there be a thank you. This again puts the controller in a position of power.

10. Criticizes everyone

This is a characteristic of a controller. He has to be the one who looks good, so he will quickly sharply criticize anyone who makes a suggestion or plan. Even though he likes the plan, he can only criticize it because the idea did not originate from him. Criticizing others elevates the controller in his own mind.

11. Oneupmanship

A person with a Jezebel spirit will always upstage another person. He feels threatened by anyone who dares to steal the limelight or anyone who is a threat to his power and control. If you are with such a person and tell of your accomplishment or victory, you can be assured he will quickly tell of something he has accomplished.

12. Sequesters information

A Jezebel loves to be in control of information. If there is ever a situation where information is important, he will push to be the “first” to know it. He seems to know everything about everyone. Where he gets all his information is beyond comprehension, but he can dictate to you data and details about people’s lives and actions in mass quantities.

13. Uses information

A Jezebel uses information as a leverage for power and then shares tidbits with you, often things told him in confidence. This gives him a sense of power, even to the point of trying to impress people by “knowing things” that others do not.

14. Talks incessantly

Many people talk habitually, but a Jezebel uses talking as a form of control. In a typical conversation, he does all the talking, whether it is about sports, the weather or the Kingdom of God. Because of this form of control, he is unable to receive input from anyone in his life. All conversation with him is one-sided. You are doing the listening.

15. Spiritualizes everything

When a controller is confronted, he commonly spiritualizes the situation, explaining it off on God. This prevents him from owning up to responsibility required of him. The implication is always, “You’ve got a problem; I don’t.”

16. Is insubordinate

A Jezebel never takes the side of the employer or a person in authority, unless it is a temporary action to make himself look good. He often will take credit for someone else’s idea. His main desire is for power and control. There is no conscience when an opportunity for recognition presents itself.

17. Is pushy and domineering

A person with a Jezebel spirit pressures you to do things, seemingly ripping from you your right to choose or make a decision for yourself. He makes others feel as though they don’t have enough sense to think for themselves.

18. Is clairvoyant

Many who operate with a spirit of control also have a clairvoyant spirit. A Jezebel has supernatural help in knowing and sensing information. If he uses this against you, he may say “I can’t tell you how I know this. I just know it.” This is not the Holy Spirit, but the help of a clairvoyant or familiar spirit. Clairvoyance may be defined as the power to perceive things that are out of the range of human senses.

19. Uses the element of surprise

A Jezebel’s main thrust is to be in control, and a large part of control is catching you off guard. Therefore, the element of surprise works well when he shows up a day early for a meeting, etc.

20. Sows seeds of discord

A Jezebel will continually belittle another person in the most subtle way. The strategy is to “gain” control by minimizing the value of another person. It is common for him to tell half-truths to implicate another person in your eyes. By sowing these seeds, he hopes to eventually reap a harvest of destruction, improving his position of power.

21. Commands attention

A Jezebel likes to be the center of attention and doesn’t like to see others recognized and lauded. When someone else is recognized, he will quickly undermine the person’s accomplishments verbally.

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22. Is vengeful

Since a Jezebel is never wrong, if you contradict or confront one, get ready to become his worst enemy. As long as you are in agreement with him, all is fine. But if you confront or challenge him, then look out. You are the target of his fiercest venom. A Jezebel will stop at nothing to destroy your reputation.

23. Attempts to make you look like you’re the Jezebel

A Jezebel spirit is difficult to pin down. If the person is near to being confronted, he or she will skillfully twist the entire situation, trying to make the innocent person look like the one who is attempting to control. As always, the Jezebel will do anything to look like the one who is right.

24. Insinuates disapproval

A Jezebel will often imply disapproval to those under his or her control. The controlled person feels no freedom to express an opinion, for fear of disapproval. This often manifests in a marriage or in a working environment.

25. Knows it all

A Jezebel is usually blatant regarding his knowledge of everything. Quick to express his opinion in any area, he leaves little room for anyone to point out the other side of an issue. He has made idols of his opinions.

26. Is ambitious

The Jezebel has strong desire, but all for self. “I want what I want when I want it,” describes his worship of self-will. A Jezebel leader will never use the words, “We have a vision,” but rather, “My vision is thus and so.”

27. Gift giving

Gift giving is a form of manipulation a Jezebel uses that always makes you feel obligated to him. It also compromises the victim in speaking direct and confrontive truth. Naturally, not everyone who gives gifts is guilty of control, but gift giving is a tactic used by those who have a need to control.

28. Is independent

No one has input in a Jezebel’s life. He fraternizes with no one unless it is to get you to “cooperate” with his agenda.

29. Is religious

A Jezebel dwells in the local church but doesn’t like authority unless he is in the position of authority.

30. Hides

We all want to believe that the person with a Jezebel spirit is delivered. The person may seem “normal” for a period, exhibiting none of the classic traits. Then suddenly without warning a situation will arise, once again with the spirit taking control and wreaking havoc over lives. Hopefully, true repentance will come. Only then will the person be delivered.

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Snap Out Of It! It’s Time To Rise!

Reason #10 to attend the Activate Conference:

Good is no longer enough. It’s time to do better.

 

You’ve tried and pushed and made some progress. That’s good. But there’s so much more for you to accomplish. You’ve got big dreams that need to be conquered and it’s not going to happen overnight. You’ve set goals that need to be reached and they’re nothing to “shake a stick” at. This means that good is no longer enough. It’s time to do better.

The Activate Conference is your tool to doing better. You’ll be surrounded by people who have embraced their progress and are very proud of all of the blood, sweat and tears they’ve put into books, messages, relationships, businesses and personal achievements. These people started out with a vision that has evolved into a passion and ultimately, the passion has turned into a purpose. But what’s even more powerful about the Activate Conference attendees, speakers, ambassadors and volunteers is that they’ve made a vow to turn it up a notch. They are taking serious strides to go from good to better. You deserve to be one of these people!

The truth is, it’s easy to settle with thoughts of being in a “good place”. Nothing is broken. So why should you bother fixing it? The answer is simple. If you honestly felt that your “good place” was enough, you wouldn’t spend as much time as you do fantasizing, journaling, sharing, building, observing, wishing or hoping. You’d be just fine where you are. The mere fact that you’re looking forward to something—anything— means you are ready and willing to go from good to better.

So you’ve got the readiness and willingness. Now all you need is to be able to go from good to better. The Activate Conference provides you with the ability. You will connect, grow and build. You will hone in on strengths you have pushed aside or refused to accept. You will shake hands, exchange business cards and conversations. You will learn and become activated. You will walk away knowing you have all of the power to go from good to better.

 

Shannon Henderson ImShannon.comThis countdown blog has been provided by Shannon Baylor-Henderson, your “Start-Up Coach” from ImShannon.com.

 

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