life coach for women

Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.

IMG_0278“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, or call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” – Jane Howard

Building a team is the single most important thing you can do to elevate yourself which will afford you to stretch yourself and help others . You always need someone in your team that is more knowledgeable than you in a subject, swifter, and more creative. These are the people who can help take you to the next level. They are also known as your success tribe. 

Today, I want to share the importance of having a success tribe and how there is power in numbers. 

In 2015, a major key I would like you to focus on is having a clear vision and building your IMG_0248tribe. It is important to discover those who will help you carry out your vision. But, it is also vital to know what characteristics you are looking for within your tribe. Personally, I am looking for Activators that are motivated, detailed, humorous, positive, who believes in God and are confident in their skills. Successful leaders really invest in their tribe because they understand that these are the loyal people who will invest their time and even their money to help the vision.  (more…)

Be Unstoppable

The value of today. I never really understood the value of each day until my mom passed away…I never really understood the value of today until my freedom was snatched away. Today is a defining moment. I live for today. I grind for today. I love for today.~ Lucinda Cross~

What is stopping you from doing and being all that you can be?

What is stopping you from going where you want to go?

What is stopping you from saying what you want to say?

 

The more you look deep within and realize that there is bliss just waiting to be exposed. No on can stop you but you.   To change at a deep level, you have to go within and find those old beliefs, confront them, and trash them.

This is what Steven Pressfield had to say about this: “RESISTANCE will tell you anything to keep you from doing your work. It will reason with you like a lawyer, or jam a nine millimeter pistol in your face like a stick-up man.”

3 Lessons I Learned From My HORRIFIC Jet Blue Flight

My worst flight everA lot of people are afraid of dying in a plane crash. I was a Jet Blue lover and rider up until this weekend.  I was heading to Florida to keynote at a fabulous conference. I will fill you in on the grade A, top notch treatment in the next blog post. For now let me share my experience with Jet Blue that taught me a valuable lesson on communication.

Due to the rainy and cloudy weather on Friday I expected some turbulence and delays, but what happened in the first 45 minutes of the ride had me in a state of shock. I thought my prayers of going to another level in life was about to be answered in another form and soon I would be meeting my maker.  lol

The plane made several roller coaster moves, but the last three moves felt as if the plane was falling out of the sky. The plane made a huge drop. People were holding on to each other, screaming and yelling “get me off”, “Oh my God”, you name it and they were yelling it.  The stewardess were not calming the crowd nor comforting the people.

All we heard from the pilot during the huge drop was “crew sit down”.

There were no comforting words, for all we knew we were about die. I have been on plane rides from one hour to 12 hours.  I have never been in a situation where the pilot or his crew did not calm the people down and/or inform us that we were experiencing heavy turbulence or flying through some air pockets.

I wanted to hear from the pilot during or afterwards.

I wanted to know that everything will be okay.

I wanted to know that this was heavy turbulence and would last for another??? minutes.

The absence of hearing from the pilot put everyone in a state of shock, including myself.  My legs were shaking, my heart felt like it was about to pop out of my chest, and my hands were hurting from holding on to my seat with all my might to avoid bumping my head.

So here are three lessons I learned from my horrific Jet Blue flight:

  1. Always communicate, give people a heads up on what to expect
  2. Be sensitive to others needs
  3. Never eat before you take a Jet Blue flight

 

Please feel free to share your horrific flight story.

 

The Power Dress: Is it time for a wardrobe makeover?

Lately I have been considering a new style of dress when it comes to branding my public appearance.  I went through a phase of wearing plain corporate suits, then fancy suit jackets, then vintage dresses and now I just love to find my dresses in little boutiques in the village of New York.

But I am considering a new style that can really brand my personality and my presentation. A POWER DRESS is what I am in the search of.

Do you have a certain brand style in the way you dress?
Or a hat style or scarf signature?Do you have a certain accessory style or color?

What about that Power dress?  Men have a power suit and a power tie.  I am on the search for that Power Dress since I love wearing dresses so much.

I started to check out some of this elegant lady and I see that the dress adds to her look and speaks volumes in my eyes. Sexy but classy. Daring but Crisp.  I would love to hear what you think and if you have a certain signature piece or style, feel free to post a picture and share.

I would love your feedback.

Here are some pieces I like that Gina Torres, a television and movie actress is wearing.

 

 

 

 

 

Twitter Party: 2 Tweet Minimum #BeRedeemed

 

Pre-Release Twitter Party for new book “The Road to Redemption: Overcoming Life’s Detours, Obstacles and Challenges”.

  • No cover charge
  • If you don’t have access to a computer, you can Twitter-pool with someone who does
  • From the comfort of your iPad, phone, laptop or desktop, no need for the shoes that look cute but hurt
  • No need for a babysitter, bring the little bundle of love with you
  • You don’t even have to be home, party right where you are, on the metro, in the gas station, at the salon or in the laundry room…
  • There is a 2 Tweet minimum: meaning you have to post at least 2 tweets during the party or answer 2 questions or answers

Join us this Thursday, April 19th at 1pm ET or 8pm ET for a #BeRedeemed pre-release book twitter party focused on the new book “The Road to Redemption” set to be released on Amazon May 21st. We all have areas of our life where we just need a little nudge in the right direction to get unstuck. We may feel like we hit the “sleep” button on our clock. Now is the time to take control of the life you really want to live. Come chat with us about how the Road to Redemption will show you how to get out of your comfort zone to achieve your goals.

 

Let’s get our tweet on!

 

Come meet your co-host, check out the bonus give-a-ways, and others who have already RSVP’d. Click here for more details

 

5 tips to Be on FIRE and In Demand

Whatever you do in business and in your day to day life, do your best.  Keep in mind that competition is only proof that there is someone, somewhere who is capable of doing what you do.  Here is the beauty of competition, you can BE on FIRE and stand out from the rest and make your competition irrelevant.  You have indispensable and irreplaceable qualities.

Yes, you!

The are over 3 bakeries down the block from me, but there is one reason why I keep going back to the old rinky dink one.  They always give free samples of the days specials (cakes, cookies, etc) when you order a baked delight.  Just that simple added value keeps her customers loyal and coming back for more…she also remembers my name.

Here is 5 tips to keep yourself on FIRE and In Demand:

  1. Be your best when others are looking and even when they are not looking. Be your best whether it is one client or 10 clients, one member or 100 members.  Keep up the momentum and give your best.
  2. Focus on one thing at a time. Never ever multitask to the point you become ineffective and confused.
  3. Take a rest and recharge your mental batteries.  This will help to keep your productivity and performance levels high.
  4. Learn to say no.  Don’t worry about losing the sale or missing the opportunity especially when it involves you compromising your fees, rates or schedule.  Each time you say no you will feel more confident in your decision and the ability to achieve those things that are a priority for you.
  5. Always add value, to your services, products, conversations, presentations.  Be known for the one who brings value and substance to the table.

 

Stay tuned for more tips on Being on Fire and In Demand. In the meantime sign up for my ecourse to the top right column of this page.

 

Lucinda Cross

 

If you are ready to become an official Activator go to http://www.lucindacross.com/activate

Life Strategies: Stay Grounded Without Settling

 

Living life on purpose means that you have strategies in place that help you go from the land of not enough to the land of more than enough.

Life has many ways of putting a hold on us as a way to mold us for our mission.  From work related pressure, family stress, health issues, political discomfiture and religious principalities.

What comes out when you apply life strategies to your life?

What comes out of you when you are squeezed, watered, shaped, reshaped, pressed, pulled, molded and formed?

More likely you will wreak the scent of “settling”. Smelling as if you have showed in guilt, envy, jealousy, unhappiness, frustration, anger, depression, fear, hate, embarrassment, sorrow, nervousness, shame, pride, ego and or doubt. This aroma is something that you picked up during the process and have now gone from weeds, to stems, to branches.

Your life strategy was to start a business and you suffered financially because you refused to believe in yourself enough to charge more, so you settled for less.

Fear was a branch you grew.

Your life strategy was to build a happy home and you were emotionally, physically or either mentally abused, so you settled for less.

Depression was another branch you grew.

When the strategy fails, you plan again, you set a new goal, you devise a clever way to accomplish and overcome.

If we are to possess the land, why are you looking for a corner in the box?

If you believe that you are destined for greatness, why are you afraid to step out of your comfort zone?

If you are looking to be grounded, why do you allow other people to uproot you?

If you are waiting for your knight and shining armor to show up, why are you trying to change him into what he’s not?

You must remember, remember, remember your thoughts, choices, actions have great power. You are not just a piece of flesh at the mercy to whatever life puts on your plate.  You are a co-creator of the reality you live in. Life strategies only work if you work them. The next time you feel discouraged, or disempowered. Know that you are anything but powerless and never, ever, ever, ever settle for less.

If you would like to discuss how you can experience a personal and professional breakthrough, schedule a confidential session with me by visiting http://www.tungle.me/lucindacross, let’s get to the bottom of this once and for all.