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Easy way to get booked to be a speaker

The question I hear from clients is: How to get booked and stay booked in an overbooked economy?

If you don’t have any speaking engagements lined up, prepare yourself like you do. Start today.

Act As If!

Go get your props, draft your main points you want to discuss, pick the outfit you are going to wear, have your raffle prizes, and put your “back of the room” offer ready.

Always Be Intentional and Always Move In Expectancy.

Many times I will go get an outfit or go to the craft store for props and on my way there or back, I get an invitation via email or phone. It’s not a coincidence, it’s setting clear intentions.

Stay connected and tweet me @lucindaspeaks

Trading in Busyness for Effectiveness

Posted on January 25, 2013 by Lucinda Cross Posted in Blog, Hot Topics, Lead-her-ship, Life strategies, Speak Life, Write from the Heart 2 Comments

This video is just a confirmation as to why Activation is required.

Bishop T.D. Jakes talks about using 80% of your time to do the things you were created to do and 20% on the things you don’t have to do. Please watch this video and make a list of things that you are going to stop doing, start doing and what you will continue to do.

We must maximize our lives and it starts with editing your life to do more purpose driven activities and less of the busy bee stuff.

The Activate Intensive is a purpose driven 4 week online seminar to support you in getting on track and staying focused on the things God has called you to do. http://lucindacross.com/op/activateonline

Lucinda Cross

The Activator

3 Ways to Tackle Abusive Business Relationships

Posted on July 11, 2012 by Lucinda Cross Posted in Attractive Words, Blog, How to, Mindset, Tips Leave a comment

What is an abusive business relationship and how to get out of one?

An abusive business relationship is one that just stresses you out plain and simple. It can be and will be a huge disadvantage to the growth of your business the longer you allow the abusive relationship to linger on.

Most abusive business relationships include:

being inconsiderate towards your needs
lack of trust
often attacking your value and worth
feeling as if you are walking on egg shells
lack of communication
controlling and a “know it all” attitude
being taken advantage of
domination and subjugation

To name a few…

If you feel or know that you are in an abusive business relationship, please don’t ignore the signs of abuse. Ignoring the abuse allows the issues to grow bigger. Start to curtail the interaction with the abusive person so that the abuse can stop or you can walk away a freely.

Here are three ways to tackle an abusive business relationship.

1. Understand that you cannot change the other person. In order for things to change you have to either call in reinforcement such as a coach, mediator, or mutual party to hear both sides of the story.

2. Set boundaries. Decide whether you are going to stick it out, or move on. Your abuser maybe dealing with some sort of trust issues that could have started in childhood, and may have very little to do with you personally. In most cases both parties are suppressing some heavy emotions that are hindering the business from growing productively.

Think about your working agreement…Was it clear? Was it focused? Was it a win-win? Were you clear on results and expectations?

3. Make better choices. Most of the time, alarms and sirens go off before we begin to engage in an unproductive or toxic business relationship. We see the signs, we hear the messages, but we disregard them in the hopes that our intuition and gut feelings are wrong.

Learn to pay attention to your instincts from now on. Make choices that are life affirming versus those decisions that will drain you physically, mentally and emotionally. Stay clear from chaos and drama.

Keep these three supportive principles in mind the next time you embark on a new business relationship. Just like any relationship it takes time to get to know one another. That is why dating is so important. It helps you to see the sirens, smoke signals and warning signs before you say YES.

A great book to read is called Click: Ten Truths for Building Extraordinary Relationships
George C. Fraser

Are you bolder than a 2nd grader?

Posted on June 11, 2012 by Lucinda Cross Posted in Blog, Passion, Platform and Purpose, Speak Life, Write from the Heart 1 Comment

On my way to pick my kids up from school we run into a talent scout who was waiting to meet another parent and her child. The talent scout hands me her card and I instantly thought of my daughter and her desire to be on Disney. Although this was not a Disney talent scout, we don’t despise small beginnings. I walk to my car and challenge my daughter to meet the scout (sometimes you have to test yourself and others to see if what they/you want, is really what they/you want). I tell my daughter to come meet this nice lady who is looking for young girls for a few upcoming talent shows.

I walk away and watch from the distance……my daughter is singing…..my daughter is cat walking on the sidewalk……and now my daughter is giving her best Whitney Houston performance.

Talk about being bold. The lady was shocked at her impromptu performance.

She asked Kayla “Are you ready to audition in front of a large crowd?”

My daughter replies, “I was born ready, my mother is my activator”.

The lady said “you mean your motivator”

My daughter replied “no, she is my activator, she tells me to be prepared at all times and to do my best.”

Side bar: What seeds are you planting in your children’s mind? Do they believe in limitless opportunitunities?

Do they believe that they can be and do whatever they set their minds to?

Are you taking bold steps? Are you showing up in the world ready to do your best and be your best when the opportunity presents itself?

Life is unscripted. Be bold.

(by the way in less than 15 minutes my daughter is the star of the show and will be doing a tribute in memory of Whitney Houston)

Don’t let FEAR bully you

Posted on May 30, 2012 by Lucinda Cross Posted in Hot Topics, Lead-her-ship, Life strategies, Mindset, Speak Life, Write from the Heart, Writing 2 Comments

The FEAR bully never sleeps. Just because you have made strides to fight FEAR and be this FEARless being…FEAR is a bully, it’s like the boogie man. It will show up in the form of your mom, dad, children, supervisor, husband, you name it. But here is the remedy: Activation!…FEAR and Activation can’t be in the same room, because there will be a good old western cowboy show down.

I remember during one of my workshops FEAR popped its head in and was loud and boisterous. Side bar: FEAR will lose control if it feels like its being challenged, it will get loud or either tries to complain and cop a plea to get out.

So during my presentation, I addressed an issue that was bound to bring the FEAR out of the room and I talked about self sabotage. Well as soon as I addressed self sabotage in great detail, FEAR started to talk out loud, someone’s FEAR even made them leave the room. Now this is not because I was challenging them personally, but I was fostering a breakthrough using change strategies and FEAR wanted to fight back so that it would not be exposed.

In short, I called FEAR to the front of the room to be exposed and BAM! POW! BOOM! FEAR left the individual alone and the person was mentally free and focused enough to enjoy the rest of the workshop and receive her blessing.

Please don’t let FEAR stop you from getting married, moving on with your life, starting a business, apologizing, forgiving, succeeding or even speaking or writing that book. FEAR and Activation can’t be in the same room, so who are you going to let rule your next step?

If you are interested in how to write that book, when to write that book, what you should write that book about and then what to do before, during and after you write the book—- join me on June 4^th at 9pm EST (Call in Number 218-895-0814 Primary Passcode225323#) for a brief preview session on a workshop I have designed just for you called “Write It Already!”. It’s available in both live and webinar format for your convenience. The preview call is free and will offer a chuck full of information. Here is the call in information, place it on your calendar, so you don’t forget.

Oh, before I close, if you have not ordered your copy of the best seller The Road to Redemption, run over to www.lucindacross.com/beredeemed. We have sold out for now, but we suggest you pre order so that when the shipment comes in next week you can get your copy shipped ASAP.

For Immediate Release: The Road to Redemption Book

Posted on May 21, 2012 by Lucinda Cross Posted in Blog, Hot Topics, Lead-her-ship, Life strategies, Passion, Platform and Purpose, Speak Life, Write from the Heart 2 Comments

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE:

May 21, 2012

New York, New York

THE ROAD TO REDEMPTION

A Road Map of Overcoming and Finding Your Essence by Lucinda Cross

For every success story there is a story of overcoming and a high level of endurance. For author Lucinda Cross, her path to success is about facing life’s adversity with faith and courage.

Author and speaker Lucinda Cross plans to keep using her voice as a vessel to uplift, encourage, educate and empower women and young teens to become the best version of themselves. In a world where chaos and confusion is the norm, Lucinda Cross reaches out and touches her audience in the most vulnerable places- their hearts, souls and minds.

The Road to Redemption is an honest examination of how Lucinda Cross does it- how she relates so effectively to her community and her network. In such a simplistic but insightful and meaningful way Lucinda Cross compares her past struggles to the challenges we face every day. Her past has been felt or experienced by all of us. The lessons she learned during her intense hardships are lessons we all can benefit from. At the age of 19yrs in college being sent away for 5 years to Federal Prison; struggles of being a single mother with a dream, leaving corporate America to start her business. But through it all, Lucinda Cross has moved forward encouraging in every setback, mentoring, connecting, and teaching. Her book is an inspirational story and guide of hard-won triumph and optimism over episodes of tragedy and hardships.

Publisher website: www.lucindacross.com/redemption

ISBN-13: 978-0615566061

About the Author: Lucinda Cross is a dynamic speaker with an inspiring story and an incredible ability to touch people’s hearts and souls. She is a master at turning her past into a purpose driven life and teaching others to do the same in their own lives.

Lucinda Cross has transformed and transitioned her life, and has dedicated her life to teaching others how to do the same for personal and professional success.

For media inquires, bookings, or other publicity- please contact:

Jenny Murillo- assistant@lucindacross.com 347-634-5564

The Silent Killer Is Keeping It A Secret

Posted on April 19, 2012 by Lucinda Cross Posted in Blog, Hot Topics, Lead-her-ship, Life strategies, Passion, Platform and Purpose, Speak Life, Write from the Heart Leave a comment

How many people do you think were freed by Magic Johnson’s story? or Les Brown’s Story? What about Tony Robbins?

What about S. Monique Smith-Person, Advocate for missing and exploited children and author of I Am The Ancestor?

or Christine Carter Founder of The Against All Odds Organization, Geneva Farrow Founder of A Young Mothers D.R.E.A.M and Joan Wilson author of The Corner Woman and Advocate for The National Kidney Foundation to name a few?

From survivors of terminal illness, domestic violence, homelessness, child abuse, exploitation and other test and trails that life dished out. These trail blazers are now living testimonies that are healing a nation and saving communities.

Your mission must be bigger than your scars and wounds from life. You were chosen, you are chosen. You have been through obstacles and challenges and maybe still going and growing through it, but the breakthrough, the comeback, the fact that you are being set up to do something greater is part of the remarkable process.

I applaud you, standing ovation and encore for being unique. Your story is unique, your trials and tribulations are unique and so is the outcome. I have learned to be free, totally. Refusing to allow my past to dictate and predict my future. I refuse to allow my scars and wounds to be the source of my pride but humbled by the fact that I was chosen to go through and grow through the process of strength, tenacity and endurance to prove that I am cut out for my mission. I am not going to allow a “boo boo” or “life hiccup” to keep me in bondage and fear and neither should you.

The silent killer is keeping it a secret. If you are wondering why YOU, look at the benefits of what you can do to heal, save, inspire and uplift OTHERS with your story of victory, overcoming and simply thriving and surviving against all odds.

I challenge you to join the #BeRedeemed movement. Life starts the moment you breath life into your situation. Join me as I am on my Road to Redemption. Read more by clicking here.

Lucinda Cross is available for bookings contact her at lucinda@lucindacross.com

Lucinda Cross is available for coaching and consulting send an email to her assistant Jeny Murillo to get set up assistant@lucindacross.com

Twitter Party: 2 Tweet Minimum #BeRedeemed

Posted on April 17, 2012 by Lucinda Cross Posted in Blog, Brand Message, Hot Topics, Networking Your Message, Social Media, Speak Life, Write from the Heart Leave a comment

Pre-Release Twitter Party for new book “The Road to Redemption: Overcoming Life’s Detours, Obstacles and Challenges”.

No cover charge
If you don’t have access to a computer, you can Twitter-pool with someone who does
From the comfort of your iPad, phone, laptop or desktop, no need for the shoes that look cute but hurt
No need for a babysitter, bring the little bundle of love with you
You don’t even have to be home, party right where you are, on the metro, in the gas station, at the salon or in the laundry room…
There is a 2 Tweet minimum: meaning you have to post at least 2 tweets during the party or answer 2 questions or answers

Join us this Thursday, April 19^th at 1pm ET or 8pm ET for a #BeRedeemed pre-release book twitter party focused on the new book “The Road to Redemption” set to be released on Amazon May 21^st. We all have areas of our life where we just need a little nudge in the right direction to get unstuck. We may feel like we hit the “sleep” button on our clock. Now is the time to take control of the life you really want to live. Come chat with us about how the Road to Redemption will show you how to get out of your comfort zone to achieve your goals.

Let’s get our tweet on!

Come meet your co-host, check out the bonus give-a-ways, and others who have already RSVP’d. Click here for more details

5 tips to Be on FIRE and In Demand

Posted on April 16, 2012 by Lucinda Cross Posted in Blog, Brand Message, Hot Topics, Lead-her-ship, Passion, Platform and Purpose Leave a comment

Whatever you do in business and in your day to day life, do your best. Keep in mind that competition is only proof that there is someone, somewhere who is capable of doing what you do. Here is the beauty of competition, you can BE on FIRE and stand out from the rest and make your competition irrelevant. You have indispensable and irreplaceable qualities.

Yes, you!

The are over 3 bakeries down the block from me, but there is one reason why I keep going back to the old rinky dink one. They always give free samples of the days specials (cakes, cookies, etc) when you order a baked delight. Just that simple added value keeps her customers loyal and coming back for more…she also remembers my name.

Here is 5 tips to keep yourself on FIRE and In Demand:

Be your best when others are looking and even when they are not looking. Be your best whether it is one client or 10 clients, one member or 100 members. Keep up the momentum and give your best.
Focus on one thing at a time. Never ever multitask to the point you become ineffective and confused.
Take a rest and recharge your mental batteries. This will help to keep your productivity and performance levels high.
Learn to say no. Don’t worry about losing the sale or missing the opportunity especially when it involves you compromising your fees, rates or schedule. Each time you say no you will feel more confident in your decision and the ability to achieve those things that are a priority for you.
Always add value, to your services, products, conversations, presentations. Be known for the one who brings value and substance to the table.

Stay tuned for more tips on Being on Fire and In Demand. In the meantime sign up for my ecourse to the top right column of this page.

Lucinda Cross

If you are ready to become an official Activator go to www.lucindacross.com/activate

Your life can change at the drop of a hat…

Posted on March 21, 2012 by Lucinda Cross Posted in Blog, Hot Topics, Life strategies, Passion, Platform and Purpose, Speak Life, Write from the Heart Leave a comment

I want you to consider this simple truth.

Your life can change at the drop of a hat. Cherish it.

This means that giving up is never an option. We have leaders who show up to support the community to make sure that justice is served. They have sacrificed their own lively hood, families and “me time” to make sure that change happens, or a small voice is heard loud and clear. Yesterday I posted a late night Activation status message on Facebook. I realized not too long ago that it is not always going to be easy to make it through, it is not always easy to follow through and it may even get difficult to stand at times. But, we can not give up. We have to “try one more again baby girl” as my grandmother would say which means “give it your best shot”.

You have a purpose and renouncing that purpose will just allow injustice to happen in situations like this. Execute what you are called to do, because someone’s life depends on it. Yes it can be as modest as a 100 page book. Write it, it may hearten a mom, inspire a dad, save a child from abuse, amend a law or pioneer a movement. You never know unless you keep moving forward.

Here is the post and I hope it inpires you to push forward another day.

It may get frustrating at times, you may feel discouraged at times, you may even feel like g*v**g up. Think about how that will change your life, if you just threw in the towel. Would that make you feel better? Detach from the “I feel like doing this, I don’t feel like doing that, I’m not feeling you today & so on”. SO WHAT! You have books to write, children to raise, parents to help, a community to reach, mouths to feed, women/men to educate. Could you imagine if God did not FEEL like doing, giving or being…Don’t drop your crown because your not FEELING it today and let’s Activate anyway. Some nerve of you.

FYI: We all have areas of our life where we just need a little nudge in the right direction to get unstuck. We may feel like we hit the “sleep” button not even the snooze on our clock. Now is the time to take control of the life you really want to live. Become a part of the Activate Me 24/7 family and I will help you breakthrough the places where you hold your fear and together we will Activate the life you desire. If you need private one on one support go here www.lucindacross.com/sales and you will get the first 3 months of membership free. We are in this together.

Contact me today at assistant@lucindacross.com

Condolences go out to the Martin family and the community who is hurting from this tragedy. We are praying for you. If you would like to connect with the Martin family please contact The National Action Network. As a other of 3 small children I could not imagine this happening and neither could Mrs. Martin. We are praying for peace, truth and love to be restored in the family who is mourning and the community who is hurting.