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Is the “Nice Girl Syndrome” Sabotaging You?

Nice For What?

Most entrepreneurs stay enthusiastic and ambitious until they are called to get out of their comfort zone and they then become paralyzed with fear. They concern themselves with the criticism of others and begin to throw shade on their own light.

Sounds insane right? Well, it is. Just imagine all the potential wasted in excuse-making, light dimming and lack of confidence. Many entrepreneurs work harder at being nice and liked than nice and paid.

Nice for what, I say.

It is time to give your “nice” self, permission to be:

nice and paid
nice and focused
nice and professional
nice and worthy
nice and confident
nice and shining
nice and winning
nice and…

According to Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers. Lois P. Frankel said, Stop making “nice girl” errors that can become career pitfalls, such as:

Mistake #21: Multi-tasking. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should do it.

Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate. Don’t equate negotiation with confrontation.

Mistake #70: Inappropriate use of social media. Once it’s out there, it’s hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube.

Mistake #82: Asking permission. Children, not adults, ask for approval. Be direct, be confident.

Do You Have A Manifesto?

Why not?

A manifesto is defined as a declaration of one’s beliefs, opinions, motives, and intentions. It is simply a document that an organization or person writes that declares what is important to them. Writing down your personal or professional manifesto is a great way to

  • Clarify your beliefs and mindset
  • Examine your motivations and inspiration
  • Create personal affirmations
  • Write down your goals and aspirations

Your personal or professional manifesto doesn’t have to be permanent. Just like a vision board, you can add to you as the years go and as you grow. It is a great message to post in the office of your company, on the wall as a piece of art in your home, etc. Put it on a t-shirt if you want. Here is a simple outline you can follow to get started on writing your manifesto.

As a BONUS I have added my company Manifesto for Activate Worldwide below for you to download.
I believe that everyone _______ .
It is important to _______ .
Success is  _______ (in these ways).
I deserve___________.
I am ______________and ______________made.
Life is___________________.

Grab your FREE copy of the Activate Manifesto

 

Keynote: Faith, Love and You: F.L.Y Ladies Empowerment Summit

Get Ready To Light A Fire In Your Business + Life

Faith, Love and You: F.L.Y Ladies Empowerment Summit is an experiential one-day event for women influencers and emerging entrepreneurs. Network, learn and connect with women entrepreneurs, authors, and like-minded women, who aspire a higher level of success.

Are you yearning to learn and connect with experts in the areas of self-publishing, entrepreneurship, personal branding, fashion, website creation, film production, self-love, God-driven relationships, personal and spiritual development, health and wellness plus grow your network of like-minded women?

Then join us! Saturday, April 21, 2018, for a soul-filling day of life and business success strategies.

You Are A Gift To The World, Make It Count

Every man and woman is born into the world to do something unique and something distinctive and if he or she does not do it, it will never be done.” Benjamin E. Mays

As we approach 2nd Qtr I believe it is extremely important for you to embrace your wins and your learning lessons.

Activator, you have a gift for the world that no one else has. You are the secret sauce that makes life so flavorful delicious. Yes, you might have made some mistakes. Yes, you might have said yes when you should have said no. But I want you to stop thinking that there is nothing special about you and your story. (more…)

Women of Excellence & Men of Vision awards for 2018

Twenty-Second National Action Network’s Women’s Auxiliary’s Twenty Second Women of Excellence/Men of Vision Awards!

National Action Network (NAN) is one of the leading civil rights organizations with over 100 chapters across the country.  NAN works extensively to promote a modern civil rights agenda which includes a standard of decency for all people regardless of race or sex, social justice for all communities, education, non-violence, equality in healthcare and improvement of race relations. Through the years NAN has served as a megaphone for the voiceless and an advocate for those in need. For the past 21 years, the NAN Women’s Auxiliary has taken pride in (Women’s History) by honoring women and men from all walks of life for their exemplary community achievements, inspiration, and support

The event will be held on Saturday, March 31, 2018, from 1-6 p.m. at the Astoria Manor Banquet Hall 25-22 Astoria Blvd, Astoria, NY 11102.

For tickets please call the number listed on the flyer.

Secure The Bag Crash Course Series

Secure The Bag: Visibility Segment
Date: March, 3rd
Location: Midtown Manhattan
Time: 1pm – 5pm
Explode Your Visibility With Your Million Dollar Signature Message
 
Learn:
  • How to turn a free speaking gig into a top dollar opportunity
  • How to cultivate a powerful personal brand that gains media coverage
  • How to mark your territory as a credible leader in your niche
  • and much more…

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