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Love At First Sight!

Mr. & Mrs. Otiti

Yep! that is exactly how I manifested my man about 12 years ago. I took the time to “write the vision and make it plan” but on my board, there was nothing plain about what I wanted in a companion. I decided that since I was able to watch my life increase in other areas it was time to see the increase come in my love life.

I didn’t start out with this long list of “must haves”. I put together a list of characteristics and values I wanted him to have. I put down beliefs systems and morals that I wanted in a man. I made sure I put more of what I desired based on long term goals in a life partnership, versus a temporary love affiar that I had experienced in the past aka “seasonal potentialships”.

My Love Board kicked off with me learning how to love myself, understand myself and believe in myself. That meant me doing things that I wanted to do, following my dreams, creating positive habits and dropping dead weight inside and out.

After a year or so of that, here comes Mr. LOVE. We locked eyes at a 4th of July BBQ and the rest is now history in the making. We are happily married and tonight we celebrate his birthday. He is everything and more.

I have a Love Board template that you can download and print. I now use this to create a Love board for our marriage to Keep the Love Alive!


Your turn!

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Is the “Nice Girl Syndrome” Sabotaging You?

Nice For What?

Most entrepreneurs stay enthusiastic and ambitious until they are called to get out of their comfort zone and they then become paralyzed with fear. They concern themselves with the criticism of others and begin to throw shade on their own light.

Sounds insane right? Well, it is. Just imagine all the potential wasted in excuse-making, light dimming and lack of confidence. Many entrepreneurs work harder at being nice and liked than nice and paid.

Nice for what, I say.

It is time to give your “nice” self, permission to be:

nice and paid
nice and focused
nice and professional
nice and worthy
nice and confident
nice and shining
nice and winning
nice and…

According to Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers. Lois P. Frankel said, Stop making “nice girl” errors that can become career pitfalls, such as:

Mistake #21: Multi-tasking. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should do it.

Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate. Don’t equate negotiation with confrontation.

Mistake #70: Inappropriate use of social media. Once it’s out there, it’s hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube.

Mistake #82: Asking permission. Children, not adults, ask for approval. Be direct, be confident.

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Do You Have A Manifesto?

Why not?

A manifesto is defined as a declaration of one’s beliefs, opinions, motives, and intentions. It is simply a document that an organization or person writes that declares what is important to them. Writing down your personal or professional manifesto is a great way to

  • Clarify your beliefs and mindset
  • Examine your motivations and inspiration
  • Create personal affirmations
  • Write down your goals and aspirations

Your personal or professional manifesto doesn’t have to be permanent. Just like a vision board, you can add to you as the years go and as you grow. It is a great message to post in the office of your company, on the wall as a piece of art in your home, etc. Put it on a t-shirt if you want. Here is a simple outline you can follow to get started on writing your manifesto.

As a BONUS I have added my company Manifesto for Activate Worldwide below for you to download.
I believe that everyone _______ .
It is important to _______ .
Success is  _______ (in these ways).
I deserve___________.
I am ______________and ______________made.
Life is___________________.

Grab your FREE copy of the Activate Manifesto

 

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You Are A Gift To The World, Make It Count

Every man and woman is born into the world to do something unique and something distinctive and if he or she does not do it, it will never be done.” Benjamin E. Mays

As we approach 2nd Qtr I believe it is extremely important for you to embrace your wins and your learning lessons.

Activator, you have a gift for the world that no one else has. You are the secret sauce that makes life so flavorful delicious. Yes, you might have made some mistakes. Yes, you might have said yes when you should have said no. But I want you to stop thinking that there is nothing special about you and your story. (more…)

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Let God Crown You, Not The Streets

Let God Crown You, Not The Streets.

To all my young girls and young women who believe the streets are loyal.

Being a Trap Queen and chasing fast money is not an aspiration.

No one is going to be there when the cuffs and shackles are put on. Your “street family” don’t visit or can’t visit, they don’t put money on your commissary, they’re not there when your name is stripped to a number and when you have to strip, squat and cough. Your man aka bae moves on to the next chick who is not in the streets. You are left with broken promises, unanswered phone calls and no mail from those you looked out for, fought for, showed up for, left your family for, and spent money on. Those you broke bread with and held down suddenly disappear and you now become a memory and your status becomes forgotten.

Fast cars become a trip on Con Air or a prison bus as you are transported from court or prison to prison. Jewelry and expensive bags become shackles and cuffs. Those brand labels you wear become sweats, tan or orange suits. The streets you once rep and your street family are replaced with cement walls, food that looks like death, steel toilets, dirty cells, 2in thick beds, used panties, women who try to test you mentally, physically and sexually, COs and counselors who take advantage.

You didn’t want to listen to your mother or mother figure when you were a “trap queen” so now that is replaced with a “prison mom” who’s doing lots of time and they show you who to trust and how to do your time.

You learn to adjust and get excited about mail call and commissary days or being moved from a holding facility like MCC to a prison so you can live a little and eat real food. Trading soups for cigarettes or crocheting slippers for snacks.

Trap Queens have to fight for their freedom with a public defender or paid lawyer who goes out for drinks after work with the same prosecutors who work tirelessly to give you a plea deal that is unjust or charges that give maximum sentences.

Wake up! Don’t trade your name for a number. Let God crown you not the streets.

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The UV Effect Podcast: Release Restraints To Activate Value

[NEW EPISODE] My guest on this episode of the#TheUVEffectPodcast is no stranger to adversity and overcoming. After being incarcerated at only 19 years old, this phenomenal woman developed the mindset and the vision to create the extraordinary life she is living today.

Show Notes:
  • I’m here to speak my truth and stand in my power.
  • My past is my story, it is the reason I am here.
  • No longer will I allow procrastination to prevent me from moving forward
  • If you are able to Activate, you would no longer be the best-kept secret.
  • Authenticity has no competition
  • When we work on our own goals, ambitions, and dreams, we’ll see how easy it is to live more, obtain more, have more, become more.
  • You don’t have to become your environment.
  • Standing out makes you become your best.
  • There’s a world that celebrates you doing the things that you love to do.
  • We have to stand up and be our best because somebody needs that.
  • Our unique value is connected to a portion of the world that we are designated to support.

 

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Interview on Support is Sexy podcast

Lucinda’s is an incredible story of resilience and vision. And on this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Lucinda — who is now President and Chief Activator of her own company, Activate Worldwide, speaks around the world about the power of vision, and who has appeared in media, such as Essence and the Today show — shares how to shift your mindset, hold onto to your vision, remain resilient and believe in the possibilities, no matter your circumstance.

 On this episode, you’ll learn…

  • How to know when it’s time to share your story.
  • How to shift your mindset and hold onto your vision no matter your circumstance.
  • The power of creative visualization.
  • What a vision board is.
  • Why your vision board only works if you work it.
  • What are three key things that you should keep in mind when creating your vision board?

 

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Queen BOSS Interview Live on WBLS.COM with Lucinda Cross

SPILLIN TEA!!

Sapphira Martin, founder and chief curator of SassBoxx and Lucinda Cross , founder of #ActivateWorlwide are on air now with Deja Vu!!
These female entrepreneurs are currently contestants on the new TV show #QueenBoss , debuting on CentricTV, January 14th!

LISTEN LIVE ON WBLS.COM!
#ActivateYourVision

#SassBoxx

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Lucinda Cross speaking at GLE Annual event hosted by Yandy Smith-Harris

Egl 11-05 230pm w-24 (1) Egl 11-05 230pm w-32

 

“The Passion + Purpose = Profit event on Friday night was super inspiring. The panelists, who included Tiara Williams, Monique Rodriguez, Tamika Mallory, Lucinda Cross, Tashera Simmons, Bershan Shaw and Precious Avorkliyah-Evans, encouraged everyone to put themselves first and do what makes them happy.

Either you can be Passionately Poor or you can be Passionately Profitable. When you are Passionately Poor it means that you are passionate about something, and people see your hard work, but you’re not getting paid. Passionately Profitable is when you are dedicated to your passion and do whatever it takes to brand yourself, and turn that into profits.

Each and every person’s passion is organic. Your Passion is created from what you LOVE plus what you’re GREAT at. If you don’t know what your passion is, you need to get out and experiment with different things you like to do. If you try something you thought you liked and it does not work, you get up and try the next thing, and then the next thing and then the next until you have found your passion.” —Recap article featured in EGL written by @Tawana Coleman, Speak Free Communications

Click below to read more: http://everythinggirlslove.com/recap-girls-love-events-weekend-2016/

Photo Cred: Santanah Pinto @adorjephotography

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