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3 Easy tips to “do you” & leave the phone home

A huge part of being productive at your personal development goals is to take time out for you. There is a beautiful word to describe being in the good company of oneself: solitude.  It simply means not being by yourself, but with yourself.  It’s the blossoming of independence and the path to cultivate inner strength.

How awesome is that?

Make time to “do you” even if you have to pencil yourself in on the calendar.  Trust me it will help you to clear your mind.  It will feel like you hit the reset button.

Do you feel like you are too busy to think?

How often do you decide to do something for yourself only to find yourself still in a position doing something for someone else?

Have you tricked yourself into believing that you were going to relax and release but you constantly are responding to text messages and emails?

Let me help you out a bit my friend, especially if you are on the writing binge for the month of August.

Tip #1: Leave the phone at home

Okay I already hear you making all kinds of excuses of why you need your phone. What if something happens to the kids? What if my mom calls? What if I get stranded? Keep bringing up all the reasons why you need to have your phone with you 24/7. Sounds like you need a tech detox. it may feel weird at first going on a date by yourself but, get over the uncomfortable feeling and embrace the time.

Tip #2: Leave the phone home

Leave the phone home so you don’t have anyone calling you and interrupting your tan, your massage, your meal or you thoughts.  I dread the calls that go like this, “babe, where is the ketchup?” or “babe, do you know where the remote is?”, uggghhhhhh. If there is an emergency at home, the only thing you can do is pray that everything is okay and when you get home just hope and pray that all the kids have their body parts in tact and no one is bleeding, the fire department is not in front of your house and your 2 year old is not playing in your makeup bag. Other than that enjoy yourself. Bring your journal, bring your inspirational music or CD.

Tip#3: Leave the phone home

How often have you seen people on a date or walking togther and they are on their phones texting, tweeting and posting? I remember taking myself out for a nice walk and of course I had my phone with me and instead of walking and meditating, I started to take pictures for my blog, I started to ask other people to take a picture of me.  I was tweeting and texting until I walked into a pile of dung while texting….that was it for me…my casual relaxing walk turned into a embarrassing dung washing by the hydrant.

 

Post a comment below and let me know what date you decided to pick for your date night out.

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The Power Dress: Is it time for a wardrobe makeover?

Lately I have been considering a new style of dress when it comes to branding my public appearance.  I went through a phase of wearing plain corporate suits, then fancy suit jackets, then vintage dresses and now I just love to find my dresses in little boutiques in the village of New York.

But I am considering a new style that can really brand my personality and my presentation. A POWER DRESS is what I am in the search of.

Do you have a certain brand style in the way you dress?
Or a hat style or scarf signature?Do you have a certain accessory style or color?

What about that Power dress?  Men have a power suit and a power tie.  I am on the search for that Power Dress since I love wearing dresses so much.

I started to check out some of this elegant lady and I see that the dress adds to her look and speaks volumes in my eyes. Sexy but classy. Daring but Crisp.  I would love to hear what you think and if you have a certain signature piece or style, feel free to post a picture and share.

I would love your feedback.

Here are some pieces I like that Gina Torres, a television and movie actress is wearing.

 

 

 

 

 

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Mindsturbation may be stopping you from???

Mega Mind

The Road to Redemption:

Overcoming life’s obstacles, roadblocks, detours and challenges

How to use this book: If you decide to dive in and out of this book expecting a miracle, you have just picked up the wrong book. If you decide to act occasionally on the suggested strategies, you will undoubtedly receive some benefit but it is highly unlikely that you will experience a transformation. In my experience, mindsturbation is the major difference that separates those who receive remarkable results and experience a major ARCSFL transformation from those who enjoy spurts of success. Mindsturbation is a combination of motivation and temporary mental stimulation. People looking for a temporary feel-good will find innumerable ways not to do the recommended success strategies.

The Road To Redemption is more than just another shelf item that you can read to get a quick fix, steps to, or how to advice book. This is a story of REDEMPTION. This is a process. Activation is required; the change does not happen overnight and requires you to focus fully on your destination in life. Many of us have become so self-sabotaged that we are just tired of being tired. Many of us have given up too soon, right before our breakthrough in life. Many of us have lost our hope and faith and have pulled back from being spiritually connected. Many of us have been motivated and empowered to experience only confusion, loneliness, self-doubt, and feelings of unworthiness. This has opened the door to saying yes, when we wanted to say no, to become unproductive because we allowed distractions and competition to hinder the completion of our process.

The Road to Redemption is designed to teach us to check our character, spiritual beliefs, mindset, relationships, and skill sets. Too often, our intellectual assets are underdeveloped, underutilized, or underperformed. The Road to Redemption will help you reach, stretch, grow, and propel into becoming the greatest and best YOU.

 

Take Action:

Get your copy today at https://www.lucindacross.com/thebook

Or go to Amazon at http://amzn.com/0615566065

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3 Ways to Tackle Abusive Business Relationships

 

What is an abusive business relationship and how to get out of one?

An abusive business relationship is one that just stresses you out plain and simple.  It can be and will be a huge disadvantage to the growth of your business the longer you allow the abusive relationship to linger on.

 

Most abusive business relationships include:

  • being inconsiderate towards your needs
  • lack of trust
  • often attacking your value and worth
  • feeling as if you are walking on egg shells
  • lack of communication
  • controlling and a “know it all” attitude
  • being taken advantage of
  • domination and subjugation

To name a few…

If you feel or know that you are in an abusive business relationship, please don’t ignore the signs of abuse. Ignoring the abuse allows the issues to grow bigger. Start to curtail the interaction with the abusive person so that the abuse can stop or you can walk away a freely.

Here are three ways to tackle an abusive business relationship.

1. Understand that you cannot change the other person. In order for things to change you have to either call in reinforcement such as a coach, mediator, or mutual party to hear both sides of the story.

2. Set boundaries. Decide whether you are going to stick it out, or move on. Your abuser maybe dealing with some sort of trust issues that could have started in childhood, and may have very little to do with you personally.  In most cases both parties are suppressing some heavy emotions that are hindering the business from growing productively.

Think about your working agreement…Was it clear? Was it focused? Was it a win-win? Were you clear on results and expectations?

3. Make better choices. Most of the time, alarms and sirens go off before we begin to engage in an unproductive or toxic business relationship. We see the signs, we hear the messages, but we disregard them in the hopes that our intuition and gut feelings are wrong.

Learn to pay attention to your instincts from now on. Make choices that are life affirming versus those decisions that will drain you physically, mentally and emotionally.  Stay clear from chaos and drama.

Keep these three supportive principles in mind the next time you embark on a new business relationship.  Just like any relationship it takes time to get to know one another.  That is why dating is so important.  It helps you to see the sirens, smoke signals and warning signs before you say YES.

A great book to read is called Click: Ten Truths for Building Extraordinary Relationships
George C. Fraser

 

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Personal Improvement starts with Personal Declarations

Okay so we just finished celebrating The 4th of July here in the states. One of the challenges that I had given my clients is to make their Personal Declaration of Independence. I asked them to take a stand and be free…

I invite you to take time this week before the month is out to take a stand and be in your own life.  First, make a declaration
to yourself that you WILL take your vision, life and goals to the next level. Make your vision for your life real! Make a declaration that you WILL make happen. Decide with certainty that this is what you WILL create.

Then…

Write out your Personal Declaration of Independence! It might look something like this:

‘I, __________, declare that I shall live  a life that operates like _______________. I will have a vision that touches the lives
of _____________people, and gives my life the fun, fulfillment, and the freedom I desire!

I declare that I WILL do WHATEVER it takes to make it happen, and give myself permission to receive all the support necessary!’

After writing your Personal Declaration of Independence, send it to 5 (or more) people you respect. Sending to other people makes it more realistic and it holds you accountable.

Written word has power. I know most people will never actually write a declaration (or type it) and send it to anyone. Why? Because most people are too busy.  But, there are a few of you who will. These are the people that usually make things happen in the world.

And…

If you want to be the kind of person that gets results, start today by declaring what you WILL do in order to go to the next level in your life, career, business, etc…

 

Looking for a coach to push your onward and upward connect with me for my Summer Special at https://lucindacross.com/services/worktogether/.

 

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Change your leadership position: Lead-hers vs. Need-hers

In business and in life it is imperative for us to look at our position that we hold in the hearts and minds of the people we come in contact with and determine, whether we are showing needy tendencies or leadership qualities.  If you want more out of life, love, family, friends, health and even in your faith you must position yourself in a way that fosters positive changes.

 

Lead-hers are those who are going to make things happen and push against the grain.  They also raise up other lead-hers on the way. They have high determination and low levels of procrastination.

Need-hers are those who are waiting for things to change, shift and happen.  They sit around waiting for someone or something to save them. They have high expectations and low activation.

Someone is waiting for you to be a Lead-her. You never know you just might save someone’s life.

Tell me your thoughts on this topic. I am interested to reading your thoughts and comments. Here is an Activate post I shared on my Facebook wall today. http://facebook.com/authorlucindacross

Activate: What is the Road to Redemption about? It’s about teacher the reader how to be a lead-her versus a need-her. I will explain this later, but I want you to sit on this and think about the position you hold right now in the lives of those you come in contact with. Get your copy today if you don’t have your own https://www.lucindacross.com/thebook

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For Immediate Release: The Road to Redemption Book

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE:

May 21, 2012

New York, New York

 

THE ROAD TO REDEMPTION

A Road Map of Overcoming and Finding Your Essence by Lucinda Cross

For every success story there is a story of overcoming and a high level of endurance. For author Lucinda Cross, her path to success is about facing life’s adversity with faith and courage.

Author and speaker Lucinda Cross plans to keep using her voice as a vessel to uplift, encourage, educate and empower women and young teens to become the best version of themselves.  In a world where chaos and confusion is the norm, Lucinda Cross reaches out and touches her audience in the most vulnerable places- their hearts, souls and minds.

The Road to Redemption is an honest examination of how Lucinda Cross does it- how she relates so effectively to her community and her network. In such a simplistic but insightful and meaningful way Lucinda Cross compares her past struggles to the challenges we face every day. Her past has been felt or experienced by all of us. The lessons she learned during her intense hardships are lessons we all can benefit from. At the age of 19yrs in college being sent away for 5 years to Federal Prison; struggles of being a single mother with a dream, leaving corporate America to start her business.  But through it all, Lucinda Cross has moved forward encouraging in every setback, mentoring, connecting, and teaching. Her book is an inspirational story and guide of hard-won triumph and optimism over episodes of tragedy and hardships.

Publisher website: https://www.lucindacross.com/redemption

ISBN-13: 978-0615566061

 

About the Author: Lucinda Cross is a dynamic speaker with an inspiring story and an incredible ability to touch people’s hearts and souls. She is a master at turning her past into a purpose driven life and teaching others to do the same in their own lives.

Lucinda Cross has transformed and transitioned her life, and has dedicated her life to teaching others how to do the same for personal and professional success.

 

For media inquires, bookings, or other publicity- please contact:

Jenny Murillo- assistant@lucindacross.com 347-634-5564

 

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Show and Tell: 3 Elements to a Great Presentation

Remember in grade school you had “Show and Tell” day.  Well as an adult “Show and Tell” day is every day. Your performance and your presentation is more than what you know, and what you’ve done in the past; it’s about what you do with what you know. Your reputation is a combination of how you show up and what you do when you show up in life.  How are you showing and telling in your day to day interactions? For example when you are interacting online as motivational speaker and your post are complaints and mishaps. There are no time-outs, or do-over’s when it comes to our performance in life. All it takes is an instant to touch someone-or to undermine a lifetime of good “Show and Tell” performances.

Every moment is an opportunity to shine. Regardless of your position or profession, you are on stage at all times.  Your local postman has a reputation to live up to, your bus driver has a reputation to live up to, your local mom and pop shop has a reputation to live up to, etc.  Your performance is ultimately not about thinking or knowing but doing. What are you going to do when it is your time to present or perform?

Here are three elements to consider:

Be innovative: Go above and beyond to establish a positive reputation and go beyond the rudimentary to hone your skills to a higher level so when you enter the room, when you show up at work, when you present your biz, etc. it supersedes your expectations.

Be committed: Discipline yourself to become better and do better than the last performance/presentation. Demonstrate that you know how to do what you do, practice and perfect what you do, and have the passion to become better.

Be consistent: Make sure your values reflect in your actions.  Be known for something.  Your performance tells a great deal about your commitment level, consistency, mastery of skills and professionalism. Consistency builds trust.

Remember this side note: performance and presentation matters. It is the “Telling” part of the “Show and Tell”. I was inspired to write this post thanks to my Twitter friend @elaynefluker who posted: “Your reputation determines what they think of U before U enter the room. Your presentation = what they think of U when you’re IN the room…”

 

 

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Dressed Up Fears Reek

I am excited to say that I just finished another Saturday Night Live Vision Board Party in Maryland this weekend.  We had a blast and we also had to face some uncomfortable realizations.  The event was awesome, the setting was just right and everything looked wonderful. Often times when I am coaching, speaking and even presenting I am faced with powerful individuals who have dressed up their fears.  Consciously or subconsciously their fears follow them and may even try to speak for them.

I remember the days I would be on an assignment with my mentor and I reeked with fear.  I would dress my fear up every day because I was wanted to hide my inadequacies.  I would present myself as passionate, but fearful, confident, but fearful, bold, but fearful, courageous, but fearful.  I had dressed up my fears for so long that they became a part of my daily routine just like brushing my teeth.  Get up, say my prayer, thank God for health, wealth and wisdom, brush my teeth, get dressed and start my day running in hot pursuit towards my goals, oh! I grabbed my fears and put them on and then went on with my day.

Dropping fears is like quitting a bad habit.  I was addicted to fear.  I would have cold sweats and hot flashes as my fears where being removed.  When you know how tap into your inner strengths, you are well on your way to overcoming the obstacles life placed in your way-just like I have. I fight my fears with faith.  I no longer dress them up because I address them before they get comfortable residing in my daily walk.

Drop your fears like a bad habit…I recommend you read Strengths Finder2.0 by Tom Rath.  It’s a great book to help you to operate from a place of strengths.

Become an Activator today by visiting https://www.lucindacross.com/activate

 

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