Nice For What?
Most entrepreneurs stay enthusiastic and ambitious until they are called to get out of their comfort zone and they then become paralyzed with fear. They concern themselves with the criticism of others and begin to throw shade on their own light.
Sounds insane right? Well, it is. Just imagine all the potential wasted in excuse-making, light dimming and lack of confidence. Many entrepreneurs work harder at being nice and liked than nice and paid.
Nice for what, I say.
It is time to give your “nice” self, permission to be:
nice and paid
nice and focused
nice and professional
nice and worthy
nice and confident
nice and shining
nice and winning
According to Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers. Lois P. Frankel said, Stop making “nice girl” errors that can become career pitfalls, such as:
Mistake #21: Multi-tasking. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should do it.
Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate. Don’t equate negotiation with confrontation.
Mistake #70: Inappropriate use of social media. Once it’s out there, it’s hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube.
Mistake #82: Asking permission. Children, not adults, ask for approval. Be direct, be confident.
Setting your priorities and sticking to them is a great step towards reducing your stress, but it won’t help much if you don’t have time to finish all the other menial tasks that are involved in running an at-home business. Items like billing, filing, ordering ink for your printer, and a million other little things that pile up over time still need to be done.
Let’s look at five methods to help you keep better track of where your time goes, and keep on top of your schedule.
1. Write everything down.
Famous productivity expert David Allen, author of Get It Done, recommend getting your to-dos out of your brain and onto paper. I can attest that this method works! When I’m feeling overwhelmed, I have found one of the greatest ways to de-stress is to sit down and write out everything I have to do that’s got my head spinning. Whether those are big projects, little five-minute tasks, or anything, it all goes down on paper as my brain is churning out the words. When I can actually see my thoughts on paper, I can start sorting and prioritizing.
2. Keep track of how long a task takes you.
It’s a common psychological trick we play on ourselves – we overestimate how long it takes to complete unpleasant tasks, and we underestimate how long we spend on pleasant items. Get real by writing down the actual time it takes you to do things like file papers, log receipts, and any other tedious task. Then you have a concrete estimate the next time you think, “Oh, that’s going to take all day!”
3. Minimize interruptions.
Turn off your email alert noise, put your phone ringer on mute, and clear your desktop before you jump into a task that requires concentration. Fewer interruptions and distractions allow you to get in that concentrating “sweet spot” where you’re humming along and working at a pleasant clip. That means you’ll get your work done faster and be less stressed. Constant interruptions ultimately result in needing to re-prioritize your day, over and over and over again. You can see how the stress you feel just keeps escalating without minimizing the interruptions each day.
4. Break down large projects.
Big projects – website overhauls, writing reports, planning marketing campaigns, creating a newsletter – can be overwhelming. When faced with a large project, break it up into tasks you can complete in one sitting, preferably in under 20 minutes. That way, instead of looking for a free afternoon to tackle the project all at once (which you’ll never get!), you just need to squeeze in 20 minutes here and there until the project is completed. I don’t know anyone who can’t find 20 minutes, but ask an entrepreneur to block out 8 hours for a project, and you’ll receive in turn a stunned glare, find out baton rouge maid service near by.
5. Take advantage of “lost” time.
Our days are full of five minute breaks between activities. We call these “dead” time. You may be sitting in car-line at your child’s school, or in line at the pharmacy, or even waiting for a pot of water to boil. There you are, simply waiting for something to happen. Keep a notebook with a running list of tasks that can be completed in 5 minutes or less. Schedule an appointment, call a friend to set up a lunch date, clean out your voice mail, file your nails – anything that you know you need to do but don’t get around to doing.
Now when you have “dead” time, glance down at your notebook with the list of 5 minute tasks and start at the top. Work your way down the list every time you find yourself with a few free minutes. You’ll be amazed at how much you accomplish when you’re ready to go!
The power of time management can have you thinking you can do it all now! You are Superwoman! You are Supermom! But, before you go leaping those tall buildings, stop and take a deep breath. There are still things beyond our control. Yes, we can do a lot, but we can’t do it all. Life sometimes gets in the way, even of the most on-task entrepreneur.
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More than cutting and pasting…
On Dec. 6th 2014 one of my greatest visions came to fruition. I was featured in the January 2015 Issue of Essence Magazine. With all intentions to have an intimate Vision Board Party, the feature created an awakening in many I am connected with. Hundreds of emails, tweets and messages where flooding my inbox in reference to hosting a Vision Board Party.
As the “get it done” kind of person I am, I contacted my team, a flier was created, location secured and an announcement was made. “Join the Activate Your Vision Board Party in NYC January 18th“, in less than 72 hours we had 50 visionaries signed up and 20 more who slipped in before we could shut the registration link down. We are sitting with 23 on the waiting list, forcing us to do another one early Feb in NYC again. How cool is that?
If you are attending the Activate Your Vision Board Party in NY, here are some things for you to consider before you grab the scissors and glue:
1. Keep Your Head in the Sky and Feet on the Ground
Anything is possible in life. You can and will accomplish great things. Creating a vision board puts your intentions on blast. You get a chance to look at your desires every day. Your vision board is the rope of hope you need when your back is against the wall. It’s the hope you need when everything seems confusing and complicated. Images make your vision simple. God loves a cheerful giver. What do you think will happen when you become a positive thinker, a productive doer, and a go-getter who keeps his/her head in the sky and his/her feet on the ground?
2. Spread your wings and fly
Vision boarding is about releasing. Going back to that five year old who was courageous and fearless. As you prepare yourself to attend the Activate Your Vision Board Party or any Vision Board Party give yourself permission to be excited about the impossible and unimaginable. Thoughts of lack about money, time, support or love have no place in the creative visualization process. Get ready to fly! It would be a disgrace for you to have wings to soar and not even use them because of self-limiting beliefs.
3. You have choices
Keep in mind that you give your life meaning because you have been put here for a purpose. Get rid of any regrets, unforgiveness or expectations that you have hoarded from others. Think about the power of choice. You are here today because of the decisions you have made yester-year, whether they were good, bad or indifferent. Make the choice to let go of being perfect, getting it right or knowing what to do. Vision boarding is about being visually active and detached at the same time.
4. There is no right or wrong way to do YOU
Don’t allow your thoughts to confuse you. Don’t let your thoughts confuse your heart. Make a decision to remove the power from your inner critic that will often times dilute your creativity. I was asked this simple question 5 yrs. ago that changed my perspective of life, “What are you pretending not to know?” Creative visualization is more than just cut and paste, it’s making a statement that you are taking out the time to stand up for yourself and what you believe in.
Your vision board will come to manifestation when you make a solid and persistent connection to your purpose. When your visions are supported by a “why” that has meaning, you will find the “how” to bring them to reality. See you next post. Feel free to tweet and comment below.
Life is beautiful, painful and surprising – it is so many things. Often we think we are too small for our own life – including the painful parts. But that doesn’t have to be the case. We can be big enough for our own life. ~ELIZABETH MATTIS NAMGYEL
Where there’s intensity, lies the wisdom.
As I was reviewing the Working Families Summit yesterday, I began to shout for the rights of working families. I recall my days at a 9 to 5 was not easy. The stipulations were stressful for a young mother like myself. Part of my decision leaving my job was due to the fact that my supervisor was not understanding, made it hard to enjoy my little baby girl. When I returned from maternity leave it was as if my supervisor was waiting for me to stumble. Constant complaints about the half days I had to take off and many times waiting at the door of my office to remind me that I was late again. Nevermind the fact that I had doctors appointments that I would rush to. Lateness due to the anxiety of being late, which often times resulted from a calm to chaotic morning.
Rushing to get in the car only to have forgotten to put a nursing pad on my breast and now my shirt has a big wet spot, or because the baby decided to have an explosion in her diaper as I am warming up the car, and even wearing mismatch shoes, because I dressed myself in the dark. Then to arrive at work with a dragon in a suit with red eyes and smoke coming from her nose ready to ask me a million questions before I put my purse down. (more…)
BECAUSE WE ARE WOMEN
by M.J. Waldock
Because we are women
We keep deep inside
The hopes and the dreams
We think we must hide.
We strive to be best
Make the top of the heap
Because we are women
The climb is so steep.
The value of today. I never really understood the value of each day until my mom passed away…I never really understood the value of today until my freedom was snatched away. Today is a defining moment. I live for today. I grind for today. I love for today.~ Lucinda Cross~
What is stopping you from doing and being all that you can be?
What is stopping you from going where you want to go?
What is stopping you from saying what you want to say?
The more you look deep within and realize that there is bliss just waiting to be exposed. No on can stop you but you. To change at a deep level, you have to go within and find those old beliefs, confront them, and trash them.
This is what Steven Pressfield had to say about this: “RESISTANCE will tell you anything to keep you from doing your work. It will reason with you like a lawyer, or jam a nine millimeter pistol in your face like a stick-up man.”
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