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How I Stepped Into My Purpose After Prison

Life after prison can be uneasy.

Where was I going to live? How was I going to support myself? What was I going to do with my life?

This new found freedom was overwhelming, especially when trying to decide what to do with the rest of my life.

Let’s face it: few people know what they want to do with their lives. The pressure of finding my passion and stepping into my purpose was enhanced after prison. It wasn’t a want. It was a genuine need.

I had to dig deep into the essence of my being to see who I was. I used this introspection to put the pieces of my life’s puzzle together. Doing this helped me discover my passion and step into my purpose.

Here are three introspective things I did that allowed me to step into my purpose after prison.

I let go of my dissatisfaction.

Misery will help you find your purpose.

Many people believe dissatisfaction is a bad thing. We’re taught to do everything possible to avoid it. So we develop habits to mask it. We take pills. We plaster on a fake smile. We buy something new. But what many don’t consider is that our dissatisfaction is actually a good thing. It’s our subconscious calling out to us for help. It’s a sign that we’re meant to be doing something. It’s the path that will lead us to our purpose.

The problem with these negative thoughts is not so much the thoughts themselves. It’s actually the repetitious cycle of thinking this way. The reason we think this way is because we don’t see a viable strategy for happiness. In order to create a viable strategy for happiness we have to turn our negative thoughts into positive actions.

After prison, I did everything I could to conceal my dissatisfaction with myself. I soon realized masking my misery wouldn’t help me heal or find my way in life. So I embraced it. I prayed, I sought counsel from others, and I looked for guidance everywhere. Eventually, my misery pointed me in the right direction.

Acknowledging my dissatisfaction allowed me to step into my purpose of uplifting others.

I left my comfort zone, again.

Being uncomfortable will help you find your purpose.

I was abruptly forced outside of my comfort zone at a critical point in my life when I went to prison. I was scared, withdrawn, and so very uncomfortable. But being there opened my eyes up to my unwavering spirit and intense power. As a person, I had changed.

After prison, I went back to partial normalcy and routine. This did me a huge disservice. I became comfortable, again.

When we become comfortable it means we’ve let our mistakes and setbacks define us. We become afraid of being vulnerable and potentially looking foolish. So we accept mediocrity. We proactively avoid challenges that increase our ability to be successful.

Deep down I knew if I ever wanted to be successful, I’d have to leave my comfort zone. In order to find my purpose, make it my passion, and walk in my destiny, I’d have to try new things. Even if that meant struggling to pay the rent.

Because the path to your purpose is going to be filled with potholes. But you must be strong enough to know that finding your purpose will bring you success.

I embraced my gifts.

Understanding your natural abilities will help you find your purpose.

Your natural abilities will guide you towards your purpose.

Do you like math? Are you a great listener? Do you have a knack for building things?

These things are your natural abilities. They’re your God-given gifts. They’re great clues for discovering your purpose.

Your natural abilities walk a fine line between what you’re good at and what interests you. Unfortunately, this line doesn’t always lead directly to your passion. It often zigs and zags. So figuring out what your gifts are can be difficult.

After prison, I asked myself what I was good at doing. I decided to make a list of activities that interested me and that I excelled at. What did this list reveal to me? That I had a gift for motivating others into action using my words.

The gift was like a little seed planted inside of me. I didn’t realize it was there until after I asked myself. But for it to grow I knew had to use it. Finding this little seed inside of myself shortened my path to finding my purpose, and it bloomed into my passion.

 

Speak It Into Existence As If…


“By recording your dreams and  goals on paper, 
you set in motion the process  of becoming the person you most want to be.” Mark Victor Hansen

10352944_10204400572763854_6952838482568973638_nSitting in these plush red chairs as tears of joy run down my face. Thanking God in advance for everyone who will be sitting, attending, sponsoring, vending and supporting Activate 2K14 on Sept. 20th.

This brings me to a lesson I taught on Goal Setting for Procrastinators months ago for a group of Corporate Executives.

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(Video) Beyonce’ and YOUR Next Performance In Life

We often see success and never really see what goes on behind the scenes. There is a thin line that separates the change makers and the complainers. It’s called Perseverance.

According to the Webster dictionary perseverance is the steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success. Perseverance separates those who succeed from those who want success but don’t want to put the work in to achieve it.  These two videos exemplify with all the money in the world you still have to show up, prepare, push through, and practice, in order to have a knock out performance on the stage called Life. (more…)

Get a new ’tude

Yep, you need a new attitude if you are walking around with stinking thinking and expecting other people to cover up the funk. Please change your attitude towards your situation so that you can see the goodness and greatness in what you already possess.  In order to maximize and leverage your personal or professional life, you have to be grateful for what you have and who you are becoming.

Why should your business increase if your attidue is the same? Why should your marriage improve if your attitude is still the same? Why should you be called and chosen if your attitude is the same ole stinky thinking?  Get over yourself and move on.

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home.” Charles Swindoll

 

I had a conversation with someone who often times goes into a complaining spree.  She complains that things are not working out, that she can’t find a job, that she hates where she lives, that she is tired of “making do” and needs some real money.

Now I am completely sympathetic to her needs and her cry.  But the pity party is where I draw the line. Let’s do a little compare and contrast.

Compared to someone sleeping on a concrete floor or wooden bench, she has a warm bed and clean sheets.

Compared to the dirt under that pan-handlers nails and the hole in her sneakers, she has a $45 french gel tips and $18 pedicure.

Compared to the  bedbugs, this child lost everything from being in shelter after shelter, she has $75 hair extensions and a perm, including the extra $$$ to get conditioner.

Compared to her Victoria Secret bra and the lady who just got the news that she has to have a mastectomy.

Oh here is one more….

Compared to the fact that she graduated school and has skills she can build on, compared to the child who doesn’t know how to read because she was told to quit school and work.

I think most people need to have a gratitude check.  When you look at the comparison above who has the advantage? Who needs a new attitude of gratitude?

We do need to realize that God does not give us more than we can bare, and this too shall pass.

What are you grateful for? Go ahead and take 2 seconds to post it…take time to do a gratitude check right here, right now.

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F’ing Up: Lifestyle Freedom

Today’s F’ing up story is about FREEDOM. What does freedom feel like for you? What does freedom smell like for you? How does freedom feel?

When you look at freedom do you experience the benefits of being free or do you find yourself carrying dead weight. The weight of being mentally bound by believing you were not good enough, smart enough, tough enough, young enough, too big enough or too short enough to do.

Freedom requires you to let go and release your mind, heart and soul from the fear that someone or something on the outside can stop you, harm you or hurt you on the inside.

Freedom requires you to let go from the self imposed, self inflicted limitations of feeling and believing you are not enough and you are doing something wrong or you are wrong I some form or fashion. You don’t need to be fixed; you just need to be free. Let me repeat that…you don’t need to be fixed you just need to be free. You must not and will no longer let anyone, anything; any thoughts confine, define or bind you.

When you allow yourself the permission to be free, you will be able to use the gifts that God has given you with no restraints. You allow yourself to develop, to be used and not abused and you begin to leave a legacy.

The goal is to get free, to leverage and maximize the use of your gifts so that you leave a mark, make a contribution to good. Not just using them with the intent to earn money. Even though you may earn lots of money, you want to use the gifts to show gratitude for being here.

Give! Spend! Unconditionally! Maximize every opportunity to give freely! Show you are grateful. As you step into this new level of freedom, then you will BE the gift to someone; everyone and everywhere.

You will BE the gift to everyone that comes on your path. Think it! Plan it! Envision it! Feel it! Put effort to it! Be it! Live it! See yourself and all your thoughts, ideas, talents as gifts from God given to you for the purpose of giving to someone else. Give the gifts away, everyday! Reach, stretch, and give!

Freedom is a state of mind. Your freedom is your business; you are not required to share your new state of mind, just your gifts. Let your actions do the talking.

I Am Free.

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Lucinda Cross

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