women leaders

The Brutal Side Of Abused Sisterships

How has your past observation or experience with other women held you back in your career or your business? 

Maybe that hurt came from your mother, your own family, close friends, co-workers, Bff’s, etc… I want to help you release some of the hurt starting today. 

I have spoken to hundreds of thousands of women since I’ve been in business. Whether it was coaching, Masterminds, keynotes, workshops, networking, beauty salon talk, etc…I often hear some women mention that they want the support from other women, they want to share their goals and dreams, they want to celebrate others and be celebrated themselves but the trust in other women is at a minimum. 

I believe true release doesn’t come from keeping your guards up it comes from a deep level of understanding. 

When I look at the biggest challenges of my life they almost all center around the brutal side of abused sisterships. Growing up I recall being judged, smiled and stabbed in the back, teased, betrayed, and so much more by women whom I trusted and cared for. (Not to mention some women I didn’t even know that wanted to make it their assignment to smear my name!)

And I can’t say I was all “sugar and spice and everything nice” either, I know there are women who feel that they’ve been deeply hurt by me. 
Here’s my truth: having true sisterships especially if you are going through any type of transition makes the challenges of life a bit smoother.

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Fearless, Fierce and Fake: Gabrielle Union Breaks It Down

When all your desires are distilled
You will cast just two votes
To love more
And be happy. ~HAFIZ

geleIf you sit down and take the time to listen,  you will hear the compassion that your fellow colleagues and sisters in leadership are crying out for. Compassion is love. Compassion allows you to do your best work without diminishing someone else’s light.  Compassion allows you to dig deep without feelings of envy or jealously. Compassion allows you to look at a situation from a position of power. Compassion allows you to remove the ego from having an emotional overdose.
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Today I celebrate my sisters because I celebrate myself. Today I love my sisters, because I love myself. Today I embrace my sisters because I embrace myself.  You don’t get in life what you want, you get what you are and who you are.  I choose to celebrate her instead of compete with her. I choose to love myself and my sister-friends and associates. I choose to pray for them instead of preying on them. What do you choose?
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Let us work on uplifting, encouraging and empowering one another. We need to embrace Lean In: Women, Work & the Will to Lead by Sheryl Sandberg.  I want you to take two simple steps towards activating your compassion.  The first step is deciding what compassion means for you.  The second step is believing you deserve compassion and so does your associates and sister-friends.
Check out this video loaded with truth, love and compassion.  Activate compassion!

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How To Avoid Distractions (vlog post)

Avoiding the distractions is one of the hardest yet simple techniques that most people find hard to do.







Watch this quick video on How to Avoid Distractions and share it with your circle.  One lucky viewer who comments and shares the video will have the opportunity to attend my 1 Day Intensive here in NY in December 2012.



Excellence is in the details. Give attention to the details and excellence will come.

– Perry Paxton

It’s not what’s happening to you now or what has happened in your past that determines who you become. Rather, it’s your decisions about what to focus on, what things mean to you, and what you’re going to do about them that will determine your ultimate destiny.

– Anthony Robbins

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Become A “What’s Next” Leader In Your Industry

Image from © 2011 Young & Free

Developing a what’s happening today and that can change tomorrow type of mindset. It is easy for you to look at what is going on and buzzing around in your industry trend for today, but when it comes to “what’s next” for tomorrow you have to be ahead of the learning curve.


Every idea is fragile and must be protected for longevity.  What is going to happen next in your industry and how can you begin to implement the next trend in your business before it is exposed? I want you to pick one of your fabulous ideas that you are willing to fight for and put together a beta test. Test out your ideas, pilot your ideas, work out the kinks. Be willing to fail forward when it comes to being the “what’s next” leader.

Learn from the challenges that are presented.

Learn from the success.

Don’t focus on working in perfection, focus on working in excellence.  Become a change agent for yourself first and then become an activator that understands the in’s and out’s of your position and role in your leadership role as a business owner, ministry leader, artist, executive, this list goes on.  Whatever position you hold right now in life be the one who is thought of as the “go to person” for the “what’s next”.


Activate: Take 2 hours a day for the next 7 days and research where your indistry is headed in the next 10, 20 or 50 years. What is needed for the ideas you have for today to be even more successful and needed for tomorrow? For example if you are a coach, how can you create a program for the coaching industry that other coaches can use.  How can you begin to license your intellectual capital to be used in corporate training?





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Leadership Hurts But The Results Are Worth It

Leadership hurts.  The results are worth it, but it will take some breaking, shedding and releasing.

“Being a successful leader is never an accident. It is always the result of making a commitment to excel, strategic planning (daily) and focused and clear efforts.”

Let’s look at the stone cutter and the rock cutter, who hammers away for hours and days, relentlessly to see the rock or stone crack. After the 101 hit or the 1001 blow the rock or stone cracks.  The hammering process may have been painful and may have caused them to grow tired and weary but knowing that it can be the next hit that can crack the stone is what keeps them movtivated to keep going.

As a leader it may be hard to keep going when it feels like nothing is happenign from all your effots, you work on something hammering at it, you give it your very best but you still see no results. In my expereince and observationyou have to be willing to stretch yourself to new levels of performance.  You have to endure the pain just a little while longer because the breakthrough or transition you have been waiting for can be in the next blow.

Its going to be tough but keep hammering.  Leaders don’t quit.

A great leader can inspire and motivate people to do anything.  So take your leadership skills seriously, people are listening and watching. It may be painful to keep up the momentum, but the rock will crack, the breakthrough will happen.


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44yrs Ago A Great Man Died So The 44th President Could Be Elected

44years ago a great man died so that the 44th President could be elected.

Looking at what Martin Luther King talked about, marched about and believed, manifested years and decades later. I want you to look at what you stand for today?

How are you impacting others?

What speech have you been saying these past few years?

Have you been depositing words of healing or words of hurt into your household or even to those you come in contact with?

Is your message consistent?

Is your message authentic?

As you review the speech below, I want you to think about what have you been preaching about and speaking on lately.  This pertains to everyday general conversations on the phone, at work, with your family or your friends. Do they know what you stand for? Are you walking your talk?

Make sure your conversation is full of substance and change.  Just like our forefather Dr. King Jr. who walked his talk and it continues to manifest as we look at the manifestation with our 44th President Obama.

Your words can heal, hurt or change a generation/nation. Yes, it is that serious so watch what you preach, teach and present this year.




If you are ready to embrace your authentic voice and craft your signature message, then go to https://www.lucindacross.com/activate to become a Power Activator.

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