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Let God Crown You, Not The Streets

Let God Crown You, Not The Streets.

To all my young girls and young women who believe the streets are loyal.

Being a Trap Queen and chasing fast money is not an aspiration.

No one is going to be there when the cuffs and shackles are put on. Your “street family” don’t visit or can’t visit, they don’t put money on your commissary, they’re not there when your name is stripped to a number and when you have to strip, squat and cough. Your man aka bae moves on to the next chick who is not in the streets. You are left with broken promises, unanswered phone calls and no mail from those you looked out for, fought for, showed up for, left your family for, and spent money on. Those you broke bread with and held down suddenly disappear and you now become a memory and your status becomes forgotten.

Fast cars become a trip on Con Air or a prison bus as you are transported from court or prison to prison. Jewelry and expensive bags become shackles and cuffs. Those brand labels you wear become sweats, tan or orange suits. The streets you once rep and your street family are replaced with cement walls, food that looks like death, steel toilets, dirty cells, 2in thick beds, used panties, women who try to test you mentally, physically and sexually, COs and counselors who take advantage.

You didn’t want to listen to your mother or mother figure when you were a “trap queen” so now that is replaced with a “prison mom” who’s doing lots of time and they show you who to trust and how to do your time.

You learn to adjust and get excited about mail call and commissary days or being moved from a holding facility like MCC to a prison so you can live a little and eat real food. Trading soups for cigarettes or crocheting slippers for snacks.

Trap Queens have to fight for their freedom with a public defender or paid lawyer who goes out for drinks after work with the same prosecutors who work tirelessly to give you a plea deal that is unjust or charges that give maximum sentences.

Wake up! Don’t trade your name for a number. Let God crown you not the streets.

Interview on Support is Sexy podcast

Lucinda’s is an incredible story of resilience and vision. And on this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Lucinda — who is now President and Chief Activator of her own company, Activate Worldwide, speaks around the world about the power of vision, and who has appeared in media, such as Essence and the Today show — shares how to shift your mindset, hold onto to your vision, remain resilient and believe in the possibilities, no matter your circumstance.

 On this episode, you’ll learn…

  • How to know when it’s time to share your story.
  • How to shift your mindset and hold onto your vision no matter your circumstance.
  • The power of creative visualization.
  • What a vision board is.
  • Why your vision board only works if you work it.
  • What are three key things that you should keep in mind when creating your vision board?

 

3 Sure-fire Ways to Make Really Bad Life Decisions

MVI_8880.MOV.00_03_54_17.Still002When we set out to achieve our goals and reach our milestones in life we can be sure on at least one thing – there will be difficult decisions that need to be addressed.

In fact, my #Activate rule of thumb states that if there are no difficult decisions on the table, then the milestone is minor and the goal is too small!

When it is time to make a decision in life we are placed in a position called POWER. We get a chance to choose what to do next and what happens next. Often our first reaction to the most difficult decisions is to “push it under the rug” but we all know that’s not productive.

The next response is often times to bully ourselves into stressful energy, but that never seems to work either. We’re much better off with the solution I call “Let It Flow.”

F- Free your mind and go into silence. Quiet the inner chatter so that the truth can speak.

L- Let go of the need to be right. Let go of the fear of being wrong, and the pride to have control. (more…)

I see you…I love you. I take you in. ~Viola Davis

“I see you…I love you. I take you in.” ~Viola Davis

I believe we as women must see each other and recognize the wisdom, strength and tenacity in one another. I believe we must take each other in. The response that Viola Davis shared with the NY Times is so profound.

Let’s take each other “in”

Let’s recognize a woman who is doing great.

Let’s send massive amounts of love and support to one another.

NY Times Question: What did you and Taraji P. Henson, a fellow nominee in the drama category, say to each other when you won?

Viola Davis Answer: First of all, that was like the second or third time we hugged through the night. She said, “I love you,” and I said, “I love you more than anything in the world, I love you!” That’s what we said. I think at the end of the day, people want to be seen. And I think that’s why it was important for me and Taraji to acknowledge that in each other, to not just feel like it is competition, to just say, I see you, yes, I see you, too. I love you. I take you in.

Click here to read the full interview.

 

The Hottest Events In September

September is one of my favorite months. Not only is it the 9th month of the year which means birthing, expansion and receiving for me.  I wanted to share some awesome events that are happening in September along side the Activate Conference.

If you have an event you would like to add to our September line up, please post in the comments and we will add it to this blog post.

Sept. 4th-6th The 2nd Annual Labor Day Weekend Women’s Retreat

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Sept. 4th-6th Stand Up, Suit Up Women’s Conference

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Sept. 11th-12th The Ultimate Girlfriends Experience

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Sept. 18th – 19th LEADERS BEHIND INNER ME LINES RETREAT

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Sept.18th – 20th Activate 2K15 Conference: Building The Empire While Focusing On Family

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I Am A #BESummit Coach. Are you registered?

I just received my coaching schedule for the #BESummit. Talk about super duper excited, you know I will keep you in the loop on the journey. I have to speak at a Boarding school in DC on Thursday, and Friday I will be arriving in ATL gearing up to be of support to the entrepreneurs and visionaries in attendance.

Be sure to register for the upcoming #BESummit!
Save BIG on one-on-one #coaching, use code ESCOACH for $100 off.

http://www.blackenterprise.com/events/entrepreneurs-conference/

4 Ways To Market The Unknown Vision

1376498_828661743837690_1412289054102603038_n11024699_828661747171023_6091972272946124451_n Create a marketing mix to get your vision and message exposed. Pictured below I am with my mom and my hubby at my first signing in 2009. I took my time, I scouted my market, I listened. I made connections before the book was completed. I supplied based on a need.

That night I sold over 200 books and over 300 online. About 40% of the people who came I did not know. I walked into libraries handed out fliers, met with PTA teams, went into unemployment offices, passed out fliers at nail salons, beauty shops, parking garages, Girls Scout meetings, met with Day Care center directors and all. You have to do more than post on Facebook.

The ground work to make that special connection is vital. After the signing, I was called to do my first TV interview on ABC News Money Matters. Don’t commit brand suicide because you are rushing to put out a premature product and not doing the work to get results.

4 ways you can build the buzz around your vision:

1. Write it out via blogging. I blogged about everything pertaining to moms leaving their jobs, moms who were working on a side hustle. I made friends with as many mom business owners and mommy bloggers. It takes time to establish your blog but the results are well worth the effort. Keep your social media messages fun, light and informative…leave the heavy conversation for your videos or conference calls.
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NYPOST Interview: The Woman Who Made A Career Out Of ‘Vision Boards’

For some, the road to success is paved with gold or graduate degrees. For Lucinda Cross, it was glitter and cardboard.

It has been a road with detours and potholes, plans hatched and revised. But if you ask where Cross got the idea for the business that would one day land her in the pages of Essence Magazine and on NBC’s “Today” show, she’ll tell you, without shame or drama: Inspiration came to her in a jail cell.

“Whether you look at it from a spiritual or scientific aspect, this world is a huge vision board. Everything that’s here is because it started as an image someone had in their mind. You want to call it a blueprint, or a business plan? Fine. But first, they had to think about it and draft it. So a vision board? It’s like selling our own ideas to ourselves.”

Read more at: http://nypost.com/2015/03/14/the-woman-whos-made-a-career-out-of-vision-boards/

Article Written By Mackenzie Dawson

 

Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.

IMG_0278“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, or call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.” – Jane Howard

Building a team is the single most important thing you can do to elevate yourself which will afford you to stretch yourself and help others . You always need someone in your team that is more knowledgeable than you in a subject, swifter, and more creative. These are the people who can help take you to the next level. They are also known as your success tribe. 

Today, I want to share the importance of having a success tribe and how there is power in numbers. 

In 2015, a major key I would like you to focus on is having a clear vision and building your IMG_0248tribe. It is important to discover those who will help you carry out your vision. But, it is also vital to know what characteristics you are looking for within your tribe. Personally, I am looking for Activators that are motivated, detailed, humorous, positive, who believes in God and are confident in their skills. Successful leaders really invest in their tribe because they understand that these are the loyal people who will invest their time and even their money to help the vision.  (more…)

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