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Do You Like The Things That Life Is Showing You?

What is your Big ASK? Do You Know?

One of my favorite songs as a child was sung by Diana Ross “Do you know where you’re going to?” 

Do you know where you’re going to?
Do you like the things that life is showing you?
Where are you going to? do you know?
Do you get what you’re hoping for?
When you look behind you there’s no open door
What are you hoping for?
Do you know?
 

Many of you have already invested in getting a copy of The Big ASK so some of this content is going to piggyback many of the principles in the book. (Sidebar: Please take the time to write me a review on Amazon. Reviews on Amazon are like gold nuggets.)  

The one question I get all the time about productivity and The Big ASK is: How do I get clear on my wants, needs, and desires? Having a Big ASK is getting so much emphasis nowadays for two reasons. 

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Do you like the things that life is showing you?

What is your Big ASK? Do You Know?
One of my favorite songs as a child was sung by Diana Ross “Do you know where you’re going to?”
Do you know where you’re going to?
Do you like the things that life is showing you?
Where are you going to? do you know?
Do you get what you’re hoping for?
When you look behind you there’s no open door
What are you hoping for?
Do you know?

Many of you have already invested in getting a copy of The Big ASK
so some of this content is going to piggyback many of the principles in the book.

(Sidebar: Please take the time to write me a review on Amazon. Reviews on Amazon are like gold nuggets.)

The one question I get all the time about productivity and The Big ASK is:

How do I get clear on my wants, needs, and desires?

Having a Big ASK is getting so much emphasis nowadays for two reasons.

One: Many people have serious internal self-defeating thoughts about knowing what they want, feeling comfortable communicating it, and stating it clearly. This is where some businesses fail because they go from not knowing what they want to not knowing what problem to solve for their clients as well.

(my mom used to say, how you do one thing is how you do everything…just think about the patterns we created without even realizing it)

Two: Many of us, I will speak for myself here grew up suppressing my wants, needs, and dreams — even to the extent of feeling guilty about “wanting” something.

(you know the saying from our parents “don’t touch anything, don’t ask for nothing, don’t look at nothing…”)

Most of us learn the power of suppression more than the magic of manifestation in our childhood.

With this in mind, we begin to grow up and feel as if someone will lack because of our wants, desires, and needs…someone else will be deprived because of our clarity.

It is time to free your dreams and visions. It is time for you to take a trip on the wild side. The side that all things are possible. The side that proves that your steps are ordered by God. The side that contradicts your status, class, ethnicity, background, education, and even your own beliefs.

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Build Your Mentorship Dream Team

Eric Thomas

Now is the time to write and approach your dream list of mentors.

There are mentors, then there are “dream list” mentors. Dream list mentors are the mentors you’d pick if you could choose any mentors on the planet. Landing these kinds of “dream list” mentors takes audacity and connections. But it’s certainly doable.

==> How Facebook Landed Bill Gates

When Facebook was still in its infancy with just a few million members, Mark Zuckerberg decided he wanted to make it a platform. He wanted developers to be able to build apps on the platform.

He asked one of his mentors if he could put him in touch with others who’ve developed platforms. His mentor said he might be able to put him in touch with some developers who’ve built a platform in the past.

Zuckerberg said: “I was thinking more along the lines of Bill Gates.”

His mentor scoffed at him. Here he was, running a startup social network with far less traffic than MySpace and he wanted Bill Gates to teach him how to build a platform?

Need help with the Asking grab your copy of The Big ASK.

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My ESSENCE Fest Experience

There is too much to share to type in one post so please be on the lookout for a Follow-Up video.

Let me just share that the ESSENCE Fest experience is all about the side events. Just when you think you are having a blast at the Convention Center and the concerts at The Superdome before you get there you have to decide between a dozen or so dope events that you must narrow down to two or three that you can attend per day.

I was a featured author with a book signing and I sold out.

Side events include celebrity brunches and lunches, meet-ups with decision makers and corporate big wigs, your favorite product Pop up shops and then there’s the all-white parties, all black parties, movie premiers, listening parties, and album releases.

I was able to get in on:

AT&T Brunch with Isaiah Thomas– it was polished. Everyone was dressed to the T. Me and hubby literally just got off the plane and headed over to the brunch not realizing it was fancy schmancy. As we were going back and forth whether we should stay or leave because we were underdressed, cute still but a bit underdressed, here comes a big wig, greeting us, loving on us and welcoming us to an elite table in our un-elite attire. LOL
Here is where Isaiah Thomas was showcasing his new champagne which was really delicious and I had a chance to meet some top executives and media outlets. One connection I made, in particular, had me ready to do a Glory run around the room. (more to come about that)

Strength of A Woman Brunch hosted by Mary J Blige- yoooooooooooo, this event is my personal highlight ever year, thanks to one of my sister friends. Here you are in a room full of A-listers but everyone is super cool and relaxed. The energy in the room is light and the ambiance is flawless. Plus I get a chance to see Mary J Blige up close and personal. Yes, I had to hold back a few yells and OMGs when I saw her but her smile and even acknowledging my Yellow dress was everything.

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Is the “Nice Girl Syndrome” Sabotaging You?

Nice For What?

Most entrepreneurs stay enthusiastic and ambitious until they are called to get out of their comfort zone and they then become paralyzed with fear. They concern themselves with the criticism of others and begin to throw shade on their own light.

Sounds insane right? Well, it is. Just imagine all the potential wasted in excuse-making, light dimming and lack of confidence. Many entrepreneurs work harder at being nice and liked than nice and paid.

Nice for what, I say.

It is time to give your “nice” self, permission to be:

nice and paid
nice and focused
nice and professional
nice and worthy
nice and confident
nice and shining
nice and winning
nice and…

According to Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers. Lois P. Frankel said, Stop making “nice girl” errors that can become career pitfalls, such as:

Mistake #21: Multi-tasking. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should do it.

Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate. Don’t equate negotiation with confrontation.

Mistake #70: Inappropriate use of social media. Once it’s out there, it’s hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube.

Mistake #82: Asking permission. Children, not adults, ask for approval. Be direct, be confident.

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Let God Crown You, Not The Streets

Let God Crown You, Not The Streets.

To all my young girls and young women who believe the streets are loyal.

Being a Trap Queen and chasing fast money is not an aspiration.

No one is going to be there when the cuffs and shackles are put on. Your “street family” don’t visit or can’t visit, they don’t put money on your commissary, they’re not there when your name is stripped to a number and when you have to strip, squat and cough. Your man aka bae moves on to the next chick who is not in the streets. You are left with broken promises, unanswered phone calls and no mail from those you looked out for, fought for, showed up for, left your family for, and spent money on. Those you broke bread with and held down suddenly disappear and you now become a memory and your status becomes forgotten.

Fast cars become a trip on Con Air or a prison bus as you are transported from court or prison to prison. Jewelry and expensive bags become shackles and cuffs. Those brand labels you wear become sweats, tan or orange suits. The streets you once rep and your street family are replaced with cement walls, food that looks like death, steel toilets, dirty cells, 2in thick beds, used panties, women who try to test you mentally, physically and sexually, COs and counselors who take advantage.

You didn’t want to listen to your mother or mother figure when you were a “trap queen” so now that is replaced with a “prison mom” who’s doing lots of time and they show you who to trust and how to do your time.

You learn to adjust and get excited about mail call and commissary days or being moved from a holding facility like MCC to a prison so you can live a little and eat real food visit this site right here. Trading soups for cigarettes or crocheting slippers for snacks.

Trap Queens have to fight for their freedom with a public defender or paid lawyer who goes out for drinks after work with the same prosecutors who work tirelessly to give you a plea deal that is unjust or charges that give maximum sentences.

Wake up! Don’t trade your name for a number, read more at this site . Let God crown you not the streets.

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Interview on Support is Sexy podcast

Lucinda’s is an incredible story of resilience and vision. And on this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Lucinda — who is now President and Chief Activator of her own company, Activate Worldwide, speaks around the world about the power of vision, and who has appeared in media, such as Essence and the Today show — shares how to shift your mindset, hold onto to your vision, remain resilient and believe in the possibilities, no matter your circumstance.

 On this episode, you’ll learn…

  • How to know when it’s time to share your story.
  • How to shift your mindset and hold onto your vision no matter your circumstance.
  • The power of creative visualization.
  • What a vision board is.
  • Why your vision board only works if you work it.
  • What are three key things that you should keep in mind when creating your vision board?

 

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Venue Negotiation Tips For Your Next Event

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Topic: Venue Negotiation Tips For Your Next Event

Finding a venue can be stressful and is oftentimes one of the biggest expenses in your event planning budget. Join me this afternoon for a few quick tips for negotiating according to your budget.

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3 Sure-fire Ways to Make Really Bad Life Decisions

MVI_8880.MOV.00_03_54_17.Still002When we set out to achieve our goals and reach our milestones in life we can be sure on at least one thing – there will be difficult decisions that need to be addressed.

In fact, my #Activate rule of thumb states that if there are no difficult decisions on the table, then the milestone is minor and the goal is too small!

When it is time to make a decision in life we are placed in a position called POWER. We get a chance to choose what to do next and what happens next. Often our first reaction to the most difficult decisions is to “push it under the rug” but we all know that’s not productive.

The next response is often times to bully ourselves into stressful energy, but that never seems to work either. We’re much better off with the solution I call “Let It Flow.”

F- Free your mind and go into silence. Quiet the inner chatter so that the truth can speak.

L- Let go of the need to be right. Let go of the fear of being wrong, and the pride to have control. (more…)

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I see you…I love you. I take you in. ~Viola Davis

“I see you…I love you. I take you in.” ~Viola Davis

I believe we as women must see each other and recognize the wisdom, strength and tenacity in one another. I believe we must take each other in. The response that Viola Davis shared with the NY Times is so profound.

Let’s take each other “in”

Let’s recognize a woman who is doing great.

Let’s send massive amounts of love and support to one another.

NY Times Question: What did you and Taraji P. Henson, a fellow nominee in the drama category, say to each other when you won?

Viola Davis Answer: First of all, that was like the second or third time we hugged through the night. She said, “I love you,” and I said, “I love you more than anything in the world, I love you!” That’s what we said. I think at the end of the day, people want to be seen. And I think that’s why it was important for me and Taraji to acknowledge that in each other, to not just feel like it is competition, to just say, I see you, yes, I see you, too. I love you. I take you in.

Click here to read the full interview.

 

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