How has your past observation or experience with other women held you back in your career or your business?
Maybe that hurt came from your mother, your own family, close friends, co-workers, Bff’s, etc… I want to help you release some of the hurt starting today.
I have spoken to hundreds of thousands of women since I’ve been in business. Whether it was coaching, Masterminds, keynotes, workshops, networking, beauty salon talk, etc…I often hear some women mention that they want the support from other women, they want to share their goals and dreams, they want to celebrate others and be celebrated themselves but the trust in other women is at a minimum.
I believe true release doesn’t come from keeping your guards up it comes from a deep level of understanding.
When I look at the biggest challenges of my life they almost all center around the brutal side of abused sisterships. Growing up I recall being judged, smiled and stabbed in the back, teased, betrayed, and so much more by women whom I trusted and cared for. (Not to mention some women I didn’t even know that wanted to make it their assignment to smear my name!)
And I can’t say I was all “sugar and spice and everything nice” either, I know there are women who feel that they’ve been deeply hurt by me.
Here’s my truth: having true sisterships especially if you are going through any type of transition makes the challenges of life a bit smoother.
Let God Crown You, Not The Streets.
To all my young girls and young women who believe the streets are loyal.
Being a Trap Queen and chasing fast money is not an aspiration.
No one is going to be there when the cuffs and shackles are put on. Your “street family” don’t visit or can’t visit, they don’t put money on your commissary, they’re not there when your name is stripped to a number and when you have to strip, squat and cough. Your man aka bae moves on to the next chick who is not in the streets. You are left with broken promises, unanswered phone calls and no mail from those you looked out for, fought for, showed up for, left your family for, and spent money on. Those you broke bread with and held down suddenly disappear and you now become a memory and your status becomes forgotten.
Fast cars become a trip on Con Air or a prison bus as you are transported from court or prison to prison. Jewelry and expensive bags become shackles and cuffs. Those brand labels you wear become sweats, tan or orange suits. The streets you once rep and your street family are replaced with cement walls, food that looks like death, steel toilets, dirty cells, 2in thick beds, used panties, women who try to test you mentally, physically and sexually, COs and counselors who take advantage.
You didn’t want to listen to your mother or mother figure when you were a “trap queen” so now that is replaced with a “prison mom” who’s doing lots of time and they show you who to trust and how to do your time.
You learn to adjust and get excited about mail call and commissary days or being moved from a holding facility like MCC to a prison so you can live a little and eat real food visit this site right here. Trading soups for cigarettes or crocheting slippers for snacks.
Trap Queens have to fight for their freedom with a public defender or paid lawyer who goes out for drinks after work with the same prosecutors who work tirelessly to give you a plea deal that is unjust or charges that give maximum sentences.
Wake up! Don’t trade your name for a number, read more at this site . Let God crown you not the streets.
We must do things in life expecting a specific increase to happen. Expect to gain 3 new clients from an email message, expect to find that dress on sale, expect to be chosen for the award when you submit your application, expect for your child to get that scholarship or your significant other to receive that promotion. Find out the best Air Heating & Cooling. If you look for miracles and increase in your life, you will find them in droves and you will see how they are happening to you more than you ever imagined. The problem is that most of us just dismiss the miracles and increase in our lives as just “coincidences”.
- finding a parking space right on time, when you were running late and there is money in the meter already.
- running into a long lost friend that you wanted to reconnect with.
- receiving a financial gift from someone or getting a new client just when you needed to pay a major bill.
- getting a phone call that you were nominated for an award anonymously
- negative results from a mammogram, that was presumed to be cancerous
- layoffs at the job and your name was not on the list
- your husband getting that bonus just before you find out you are pregnant
- approved for that house even though your credit is bad
- Expect the best all the time, look for an increase in all you do.
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“When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.”
“I see you…I love you. I take you in.” ~Viola Davis
I believe we as women must see each other and recognize the wisdom, strength and tenacity in one another. I believe we must take each other in. The response that Viola Davis shared with the NY Times is so profound.
Let’s take each other “in”
Let’s recognize a woman who is doing great.
Let’s send massive amounts of love and support to one another.
NY Times Question: What did you and Taraji P. Henson, a fellow nominee in the drama category, say to each other when you won?
Viola Davis Answer: First of all, that was like the second or third time we hugged through the night. She said, “I love you,” and I said, “I love you more than anything in the world, I love you!” That’s what we said. I think at the end of the day, people want to be seen. And I think that’s why it was important for me and Taraji to acknowledge that in each other, to not just feel like it is competition, to just say, I see you, yes, I see you, too. I love you. I take you in.
Click here to read the full interview.
I know what it’s like having a desire to attend a conference or function and your financial ends don’t meet. Some events I have attended have cost me up to $2500 just in ticket price so trust me I get it. Attending conferences and events can be the quickest way down Broke Lane. Even the early bird rates seem a bit much at times. I understand.
This year for Activate we are dedicating all sorts of specials to make it easier on the pockets. One thing I can say about being strategic about the conferences I wanted to attend in advance worked out 80% better than waiting till the last minute.
For example: If you plan on travelling to an event in the Fall get your flight and hotel in the Spring. If you plan on travelling to an event in the Winter get your flight and hotel by Summer the latest. This way you get a great rate and your focus is now getting your conference ticket. (more…)
This talk shares the analogy of the tree and how our beliefs, attitudes and actions mold us and the community that is connected to us. There is no single leaf whose actions do not affect the whole tree. Sharing the importance of balancing the Fab Five in order to rebuild, restore and reinvent ourselves and communities we serve include: Faith, Family, Friends, Finance and Fitness.
Lucinda Cross is a creative life activator, Life Coach and Small Business Consultant. Her work is about helping women live a life of fire, fun and freedom. Lucinda Cross is the best-selling author of “The Road to Redemption” and “Corporate Mom Drop Outs.” She is an internationally known speaker, contributing writer for Black Enterprise and The Huffington Post. Lucinda Cross is the person women call when they are ready to leverage and monetize their expertise and message all while creating products, programs and a signature a platform. Over the past decade, she has discovered surprising trends about why certain people and businesses succeed. Today, Lucinda teaches how to communicate and captivate in a noisy world with a short attention span and the tendency to procrastinate.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
Interview with Lucinda Cross on Feb. 8th on Arise TV with Rain Pryor and Yonathan Elias.
Lucinda Cross shared tips on how to create a vision board and how to manifest your vision. Lucinda also shared her history in starting vision boards and how it has helped her to succeed in business and in life.
For more information on bookings and scheduling email Nye Scott at email@example.com or call 914-623-8572.
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