There is too much to share to type in one post so please be on the lookout for a Follow-Up video.
Let me just share that the ESSENCE Fest experience is all about the side events. Just when you think you are having a blast at the Convention Center and the concerts at The Superdome before you get there you have to decide between a dozen or so dope events that you must narrow down to two or three that you can attend per day.
Side events include celebrity brunches and lunches, meet-ups with decision makers and corporate big wigs, your favorite product Pop up shops and then there’s the all-white parties, all black parties, movie premiers, listening parties, and album releases.
I was able to get in on:
AT&T Brunch with Isaiah Thomas– it was polished. Everyone was dressed to the T. Me and hubby literally just got off the plane and headed over to the brunch not realizing it was fancy schmancy. As we were going back and forth whether we should stay or leave because we were underdressed, cute still but a bit underdressed, here comes a big wig, greeting us, loving on us and welcoming us to an elite table in our un-elite attire. LOL Here is where Isaiah Thomas was showcasing his new champagne which was really delicious and I had a chance to meet some top executives and media outlets. One connection I made, in particular, had me ready to do a Glory run around the room. (more to come about that)
Strength of A Woman Brunchhosted by Mary J Blige- yoooooooooooo, this event is my personal highlight ever year, thanks to one of my sister friends. Here you are in a room full of A-listers but everyone is super cool and relaxed. The energy in the room is light and the ambiance is flawless. Plus I get a chance to see Mary J Blige up close and personal. Yes, I had to hold back a few yells and OMGs when I saw her but her smile and even acknowledging my Yellow dress was everything.
Most entrepreneurs stay enthusiastic and ambitious until they are called to get out of their comfort zone and they then become paralyzed with fear. They concern themselves with the criticism of others and begin to throw shade on their own light.
Sounds insane right? Well, it is. Just imagine all the potential wasted in excuse-making, light dimming and lack of confidence. Many entrepreneurs work harder at being nice and liked than nice and paid.
Nice for what, I say.
It is time to give your “nice” self, permission to be:
nice and paid
nice and focused
nice and professional
nice and worthy
nice and confident
nice and shining
nice and winning
According to Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers. Lois P. Frankel said, Stop making “nice girl” errors that can become career pitfalls, such as:
Mistake #21: Multi-tasking. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should do it.
Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate. Don’t equate negotiation with confrontation.
Mistake #70: Inappropriate use of social media. Once it’s out there, it’s hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube.
Mistake #82: Asking permission. Children, not adults, ask for approval. Be direct, be confident.
To all my young girls and young women who believe the streets are loyal.
Being a Trap Queen and chasing fast money is not an aspiration.
No one is going to be there when the cuffs and shackles are put on. Your “street family” don’t visit or can’t visit, they don’t put money on your commissary, they’re not there when your name is stripped to a number and when you have to strip, squat and cough. Your man aka bae moves on to the next chick who is not in the streets. You are left with broken promises, unanswered phone calls and no mail from those you looked out for, fought for, showed up for, left your family for, and spent money on. Those you broke bread with and held down suddenly disappear and you now become a memory and your status becomes forgotten.
Fast cars become a trip on Con Air or a prison bus as you are transported from court or prison to prison. Jewelry and expensive bags become shackles and cuffs. Those brand labels you wear become sweats, tan or orange suits. The streets you once rep and your street family are replaced with cement walls, food that looks like death, steel toilets, dirty cells, 2in thick beds, used panties, women who try to test you mentally, physically and sexually, COs and counselors who take advantage.
You didn’t want to listen to your mother or mother figure when you were a “trap queen” so now that is replaced with a “prison mom” who’s doing lots of time and they show you who to trust and how to do your time.
You learn to adjust and get excited about mail call and commissary days or being moved from a holding facility like MCC to a prison so you can live a little and eat real food. Trading soups for cigarettes or crocheting slippers for snacks.
Trap Queens have to fight for their freedom with a public defender or paid lawyer who goes out for drinks after work with the same prosecutors who work tirelessly to give you a plea deal that is unjust or charges that give maximum sentences.
Wake up! Don’t trade your name for a number. Let God crown you not the streets.
Activate Your Vision(TM): The year is not over yet. The year is still unfolding miracles, signs and wonders. I received a full blessing and a major, major contract deal last week and it’s just a sign that there is more coming. We must do things in life expecting a specific increase to happen.
I want you to consciously use the Law of Increase. The Law of Increase gradually shifts your thinking to see more of the goodness in your life and others. The Law of Increase opens the door for you to produce miracles out of the most powerful vessel we have, “the mouth”. (more…)
The sister relationship, above all other relationships, is the greatest of all. I believe sisterhood requires more energy than parenting and more work than a marriage.
Sisterhood is a bond often threatened and is threatening all in the same breath.
When women get married, a union is formed. When women have a family, a nation is built. When women step into their purpose and empire is created. But, when women get together the world changes.
Sisterhood, in my opinion, is not something that can be defined. It is an experience that must be had.
There was a time when I might have attempted to understand the term “sister” or “sisterhood” by looking outside myself for a definition. Today, however, as I am perhaps wiser and certainly more confident, I choose to rely on my own personal experience and observation. Although I don’t have a sister by blood, I am well aware of the uniqueness of this relationship and the value it holds for me.
I had the pleasure of interviewing four ladies that I have been watching on Instagram for quite some time, and their movements are astounding. I call these four ladies “The Elements.” They each bring something valuable to the society that they live, work and serve.
Their bond doesn’t come from superficial commonalities, but a shared understanding of each other’s experience and contribution to the world. Within this understanding, any differences can be embraced.
Please review the rest of this article written by Lucinda Cross in Huff Post Women
On June 2, 2016 over 100 women gathered to attend the Lucinda Cross presents TEN event. The energy was perfect for a visionary to take flight and run in hot pursuits towards their vision and their goals.
We told our truth.
We stepped into our power.
Yes, TEN year’s of leaping, jumping, crawling, loving, liking, hating, crying, laughing, smiling, confused, used, supported, forgotten, screaming and believing in this thing called “Entrepreneurship.”
Here is a few pics of the game changers who showed up. (Video coming soon)
The Activate platform and brand is about building a business that fits the lifestyle you deserve and desire to live, travelling the world, making your first six figures in your business, writing best selling books, get non-stop booking request to be a speaker, get paid for appearances, get called by TV Producers on a weekly basis, get more prayer time in, have more intimate moments with your loved ones, work when you want, where you want, how you want without compromising your brand…test the waters and get #Activated.
Interview by: Dorit Sasson
Giving Voice To Your Story Podcast
Activate your vision with courage and strength.
Research shows that people who have a vision supported by goals are more likely to achieve their goals than those who do not. Lucinda Cross knows what it takes to reach high heights of success and how to navigate this journey with courage. Tune-in for an informative chat with Lucinda on the in-s and outs of what it takes to have the courage to stay the course of faith.
In our interview with Lucinda Cross, she drops some amazing jewels on how to Activate Your Life Now and how she helps amazing entrepreneurs such as yourself get started. She gets down to the nitty-gritty on how procrastination can be your ultimate downfall unless you learn how to master your mindset, so that your not just allowing life to happen. Lucinda has taken the world’s best kept secrets and helped them to gain exposure. She has assisted numerous Reality TV Stars with understanding how to maximize and monetize their rise to stardom. Lucinda instills in her clients two main principles utilizing 5 Pillars of Excellence:
Anyone who follows the Activate Movement knows that we have love and support power movements led by powerful women, for powerful causes. Here’s just 9 of the thousands that represent influence and impact to the world.
Please follow these movements and feel free to post information about your movement in the comments. Not only are these movements trending they are changing the world in which we live, work and serve. Post your movements Hashtag below.
#LIKEAGIRL Is a movement that focuses on helping girls globally keep their confidence by reclaiming the common comment and insult “like a girl” as a description on female strength.
#ASK4MORE Launched by Levo League, a platform and resource for young professionals, this movement encourages women to request higher salaries and end the gender wage gap.
#LOVEYOURLINES Two moms created an instagram account, @loveyourlines, promoting body positivity. Their movement is about photo images of women showing off their stretch marks to celebrate the changes women’s bodies go through.
#NMMAKESOMENOISE Neiman Marcus’s movement supports women by providing opportunities for through social media to celebrate the accomplishments of bold women with bold voices. (more…)
In order to be a successful chess player, you have to first understand how to play the game. You are probably thinking, Lucinda that is obvious. However, you will be surprised how many people try to jump into a new arena without actually educated themselves on the specific subject.
If you want to be an extraordinary chess player, then I would say observe other successful players or find a mentor to teach you the tricks of the trade. In other words for every new venture you decide to embark on, such as being an entrepreneur or a public speaker, do your homework and study that particular expertise. Also, you should find someone who has traveled the road for advice.
The game of chess requires a player to hone in on their strategic skills and thinking. Therefore, the game seems to be the universal symbol of strategy. Although skills needed in the game of chess can be highly effective in other arenas, if you continuously study the game of chest you can memorize all of the possible moves one can make and all of the possible advancements their opponents can make. Of course, this takes a lot of practice and dedication. However, some fields there is no blueprint and you can’t predict someone’s move thus preparing to make your next. For example, the game of business is unpredictable. Unlike chess, you can’t think of all the possibilities of what may happen and try to find solutions.